- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Traveling with FILs
This is the second time I’ve traveled with my FILs.
The first time didn’t go well. Short story: Fi and I weren’t formally engaged – talked of marriage often but no ring. We went to Colorado with his father and son. Originally we were staying at hotels. But the final lodging arrangements were made such that FFIL stayed with one of his bother and my FI and his son (13) stayed with another uncle. I stayed at a hotel because there was no room elsewhere. Long story short: I got sick, Fi wouldn’t stay with me because he didn’t want to offend his Family or leave his son with his family, we got into a fight, I flew home to the East Coast alone, and we broke up. Any way you cut it, it was a bad situation.
This time I’m hopeful things will be different. Everyone’s a little older, wiser, and we’re engaged to be married in 356 days.
This time I’m meeting the extended family on his moms side. We’re meeting at a neutral location where everyone has to get a hotel.
The issue: My FILs want to stay at the proverbial hole in the wall motel. The reviews for the hotel are less than stellar (dirty, old decor, wall paper peeling, etc).
I’m not trying to cause any issues, i don’t want to be perceived as some snobby troublesome person. But I’m one of those people that’s a little OCD when it comes to the cleanliness of hotel rooms. (Disassembling the entire bed looking for bed bugs, Packing my own Clorox wipes, Etc). I know I’m weird and FI knows this.
Fi says its fine for us to stay at a different hotel – $40 bucks more down the street. But the issue will then be his drama queen mother who will make this into more than it really is. “I’m breaking up her family…she never sees her son anymore”
Trying to get along, would you convince yourself to just go with it. It’s only a weekend?