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    NJmeetsBX    April 2012   DC

    I hear these terms often when talking about weddings especially about dresses.  Is there really a such thing as timeless?  Do you NOT CARE if you are trendy and can tell when your wedding took place?

    I am debating that myself right now. 

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    I don't care at all if my wedding is timeless. I am getting married in 2011 and I am okay with getting married in 2011 and looking like I got married in 2011.... lol. So I might laugh at myself in 20 years? ok. My kids my laugh? I guarantee they will anyways. 

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    well you can always tell when a wedding takes place. theres always something there that will give it away - its a sign of the times. partially because what we deem as timeless or classic might not necessarily be timeless and classic in ANOTHER time.

    i say do what you like, forget what others think. part of the fun of looking back at wedding picures is how unique they are and how you can totally tell usually when they got married. i mean my dad had a blue ruffle tux on and my mom was wearing a satin tiered wedding dress that looked like she could have been rapunzel complete with pointy hat - but i love the look in their pictures because its my parents time and it shows how things were back then.

     

    even looking at "timeless" looks like Jackie O or even Grace Kelly - things still give away the times.

     
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    abbyful    June 7, 2011   Kansas City

    In my opinion, EVERYTHING will be dated (wedding dress, bridesmaids' dresses,, tuxes/suits, cakes, hair, etc.) no matter how hard you try to make it "timeless". You'll be able to look at wedding pictures 10 years from now and know the decade regardless how hard the bride tries to make it timeless.

     
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    Miss Tattoo    September 15, 2012   Pittsburgh, PA

    I think some styles: A line, lace, ect are timeless. Even the 1950's dresses are making a comeback. 

    Trendy styles are like pick ups, trumpet, mermaid,feathers, ect. are trendy and will probably go in and out over the next few years. I hear pick up styles are on their way out. 

     
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    littlegraykitten    October 6, 2012   NH/NYC

    I agree that everything will eventually look "dated" but I do think there could be such a thing as TOO trendy. Dated is inevitable but you never want to look back on your wedding and think GOD what was I thinking?!

     
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    BlueChampagne    June 2011   NY

    I think that it is very difficult to find a timeless dress.  Even if your dress looks "timeless" your hair, makeup, and surroundings may date you.

    When I look at my great grandparents wedding photos, I feel like they are timeless.  Her dress would look out of place in this era, so it's not that she really has a timeless dress.  I think it's more that she had a traditional, formal, long gown with a long veil and a bouquet.  Having these classic elements in a manner that doesn't show a lot of skin and current fashion makes it seem more timeless.

    Today, since most dresses are sleeveless, I believe we will all have very trendy dresses.  If we like it now and it makes our day special, who cares?

     
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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    I'm ok with being trendy.  I love looking back at pictures and being able to just tell when they were taken. 

    Who knows, our kids might be getting married in hot pink flight suits, and any attempt to pick something timeless might be completely futile :)

     
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    Miss Tattoo    September 15, 2012   Pittsburgh, PA

    @SapphireSun: win! 

     
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    kala_way    May 28, 2011   Manhattan Beach, CA

    When it comes to wedding dresses I think the most "dating" thing are the sleeves. Especially now when the trend is for no sleeves, every dress with them can tend to look dated.

    But honestly I'd be hard pressed to know the date of a wedding by the pictures given only the men's suits (unless the style is really pronounced, like leisure suit style). So I think, simple and basic won't ever look ridiculous even if hair or bridesmaids dresses give away the time period.

    I don't really care though. My wedding will probably look a little bit trendy, but not overly so. I'm happy with striking a balance with things I like and things that are available

     
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    abbyful    June 7, 2011   Kansas City

    "But honestly I'd be hard pressed to know the date of a wedding by the pictures given only the men's suits"

    Tie width and lapel style/width can be dating. Through yes, it's not as obvious as other details.

     
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    Loribeth    December 1, 2010   Michigan (Married in Savannah, GA)

    I think that strapless gowns are trendy. They're fashion-forward right now, but fashion is notorious for changing.  Eventually, the designers will decide that every dress looks the same because they are all strapless. That's when you'll start seeing sleeves coming back in style.

    Really, everything about weddings is trendy, because they're an event that hopefully only happens once in a couple's lifetime. It hallmarks everything that the bride and groom liked at that point in their relationship.

     
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    megn133    October 6, 2012   St. Louis, MO

    I've been debating over this a lot myself. I've come to realize that I'm not being true to myself by trying to be "classic bride". Its not who I am. It was hard enough for me to even buy the white dress, but now I think I'm forgoing the veil and delicate jewlery and doing a flower clip in my hair with a chunky necklace. Will this be the style 20 years from now? Probably not, but it will be a snapshot of who I was when I got married. I think we all forget about those "vanilla brides" and really remember the ones who showed their personality. I recently went to a wedding where the brides wore lace fingerless gloves, I found it odd, but it really was a reflection of her, and it made it so incredibly endearing. Stay true to yourself, and who cares if you are trendy or timeless.

     
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    Lulusmom    July 2012  

    I was married ten years ago in a simple white dress on a beach in Maui.  It truly is timeless in photographs, but only because it was so plain and simple. 

    I'm not trying to be classic or timeless this time.  I'm having fun.  :)

     
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    MrsSBaugh    June 8, 2013   Carrollton, Ohio

    I am having this debate as I choose between two wedding dresses.  Like many PP have said what we think is timeless and classic now probably will just be old in the future.  My debate is more over feeling trendy or classic on the day of the wedding.

     
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    SurferB    January 1, 2014  

    You know that 80's look with the puff arms? Well, that was trendy at the time. You may think later in life "What was I thinking?!"

     
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    LizTheProcrastinator    October 13, 2012   Montreal, Quebec

    My grandmother wore a gorgeous bateau neck, 3/4 sleeves, ballgown skirt dress in 1960 and I was so sad to learn that she'd given it away years and years ago.  

    My mindset when I was buying my dress was that I wanted something my future children and grandchildren would dream about wearing. Of course, now they will all be boys :P.  

     
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    Roe    June 9, 2012   PA

    I don't care. Why wouldn't I want my wedding to look like 2012?

    Everything dates somewhat, even the timeless dresses.

     

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