Post # 1
So let’s say that a family member offers to buy you new livingroom furniture as a wedding gift (because we recently had to toss our complete set out.) This, of course, is a very generous gift but you’re not sure what to do because the furniture set you actually want is VERY expensive and you’ve pretty much saved up to buy it yourself.
The family member is INSISTING on buying you furniture but you know it’s out of their price range. How do you politely decline or how do you politely go about saying “well maybe you’d like to contribute?” I feel like any way I go about this it’s kind of rude or insulting.
I’m 99% sure it would be one of those deals where they insist on paying, we tell them which set we have our heart set on and they’d be like ‘Oh f*ck, never mind” and pull out of the deal – but I don’t want to make them feel bad.
Post # 3
Does your furniture store do gift cards or gift certificates? I would just tell them that you’re in the middle of redesigning your living room right now (which may or may not be the truth), and since you’re undecided on a design, perhaps a gift card/certificate may be the way to go. I think how and what you tell them depends on the relationship you have with them and whether or not they would be flexible with getting you a gift card/certificate versus physical furniture.
Post # 4
@mousepeach: As uncomfortable as it might be, I still recommend honesty. You don’t want them to waste money on something you have to live with for years.
It is exceedingly generous of you to offer to purchase our living room set. ___ amd I had already chosen the furniture we want to get before
( whatever happened). If you are willing to help us purchase that set, I would be in heaven. I didn’t think we would be able to afford it for some time. If that doesn’t work for you, we completely understand.
Post # 5
@julies1949: Oh that’s wonderful – thank you
Post # 6
@mousepeach: Maybe you can just show them part of the set? Like just the couch, or a comfy chair and the coffee table?
Post # 7
You could say that you’ve been saving for a specific set and ask if they’d consider gifting a specific item from that set. Like “Aunt Martha, thank you so much for your generous offer! We’ve been saving towards the Super Classy Line from Fancy Furniture, and have already selected a few items; we’d be thrilled if you’d be willing to gift us the Entertainment console from that set.” Or whichever piece would be within their budget.
Post # 8
@Horseradish: hahahaha @ the super classy line.
Yes – this is excellent advice – thank you!