- Future Mrs Croc
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
I need some advice, please!!
I have a pretty tricky family tree, but the gist of it is this: my mom is now married to her third (and final) husband and my dad is divorced from his second wife (to whom he was married 13 years) and has a long-term girlfriend.
My mom is… my mom. She’s amazing. Her husband has always been great to me, but came into the picture too late in my life to be a step-father-ly figure.
My dad is… again, my dad and a great one at that. He’s always supported me and taken care of me. His girlfriend is nice, a bit awkward and I don’t know her that well, but always pleasant to be around.
My step-mom (dad’s ex-wife) is super important to me. She was my step-mom for 13years (7-20) and I lived with her and my dad for a long time. I couldn’t ask for more in her. She was always there for me, had the “important talks” with me when my parents didn’t, and is very close to me to this day – 5 years post-divorce.
FI’s parents are also divorced and his dad is remarried. His mom hates his dad (he cheated and broke up the family when FI was 22 then married the other woman) and well, they just do not get along. His mom may have an escort, but I am still not certain about that.
Each of our moms will take the first row first seat position, but what after that? On the groom’s side… Can we expect his dad to take the seat next to his mother without issues? Obviously, his step-mother will not be sitting there! If his mother doesn’t bring an escort, would it be appropriate to position FI’s paternal grandmother (whom MIL is very close to) in the second seat with FIL and wife to follow?
On my side… Should my step-dad be seated to my mom, then my dad and his girlfriend? What about my stepmom? (whose bf is not able to make it) I want her in that front row, too, way more than I’d like my dad’s girlfriend to be. And if we do place FI’s grandmother in the front row I’m afraid my grandmother (who is also single) will be offended.
I plan to place my maternal grandfather and his new wife (he’s widowed) in the first and second seats of the second row, then it’s open seating. FI’s second row will be aunts and uncles and maybe his grandmother (if she’s not in the front row).
Ugh, I just don’t want to offend dad’s gf, step-mom, or grandmother NOR do I want to upset MIL or FIL. Plus, I’d really like to have the same number of seats in each row…. I’m kind of particular like that.
PS. The reception is open seating (small beach wedding) and there will be two reserved tables for parents… NOT bride/ groom specific!