- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
So, we are nearing a week after our deadline date for RSVP’s. We set it a little early to encourage them to return them at least 3 weeks before (although the RSVP date was one month before). If that makes sense…. We are beginning to contact some people we haven’t heard from. My mom is on family patrol for our side, I am on friend patrol, and my fiance and his parents are on patrol for his side of the guest list. There are people who have not RSVPd yet but the following are some tricky ones to determine..
Anyways.. I sent an email to a few friends to see if they are coming as we have not received their RSVP. One of them lost her RSVP and said she should be able to come. I said, well, I need a definite yes or no, because our caterer and cake people need a final head count shortly. She said “I REALLY want to make it so count me down as a yes and put me down for 2.” And she proceeded to go on about how she really wants to see me on my wedding day and she’s so excited.. seems a little counterproductive?
Another one- my stepbrother’s fiance. See, we were friends back in HS, then she started dating my trouble maker step-brother so I wasn’t allowed to hang out with her when she was with him (which was ALL the time) and we drifted apart. There is a lot of drama between her/him and my parents. I sent her an email to see if she was coming with their two kids (my niece and nephew) and she said she never got the invite and was just wondering about that. Umm… ok? My mom insists that she DID get it and is just lying (enter.. drama.) To top it off, I had asked her to be in my wedding party and she couldn’t determine whether she could afford everything for it so I sort of let it go and she’s not in it. Then I hear from family members that this girl said she never wanted to be in it to begin with, I asked her about it and she denied it. (Enter drama..) .. Her response to my question of whether her, my stepbrother and their kids will come is- “Yeah we will be there most likely :)” Ugh. Apparently neither of them have a license anymore- (I can only imagine why not..) so how will they even get to the wedding which is two hours away from where they live?
Then there’s the drama with my sister.. who was upset with me because I didn’t ask her to be in my wedding party. I have many reasons, and I do understand she was hurt. She didn’t expect an invite because of the falling out we had about it, but told me she was happy she got one and wants to come. But see, my mom now has a restraining order against her (long story short, there’s drama there too and she has bi-polar which doesn’t help…..) (I swear I am the only “normal” sibling.. whatever “normal” is.) So my sister cannot come unless she remains 100 feet away from my Mom. Uh huh.. Okay so I realize this probably is a whole other post.. lol
Can I get a “yes” or a “no”?
Do you have any suggestions about what I should do or determine them as?
P.S. We are having a buffet, but we still have to pay for whoever we account for in the final number. I’d rather keep from paying for people that won’t come if I can help it. =:)