(Closed) Trouble deciding where to get married

posted 5 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you have your heart set on a beach wedding…why don’t you choose a more affordable destination? Look at other tropical locations (or even U.S. locations like Florida or California, etc) in order to make it happen! I had my heart set on a barn wedding too…and once I started visiting venues – I very quickly realized that it wasn’t what we were looking for. I knew I had found the place when I visited it in person. Don’t write of potential locations without a quick visit to see if it might be worth it!

In terms of the destination wedding – travel is often gifted to some wedding guests that might not otherwise be able to afford it, but your parents are not required to pay for anyone’s travel. From what you wrote above though…it sounds like the people in your life are more important than the location. Perhaps you find the right location and go to Turks & Caicos for the honeymoon (or on your 1-year anniversary to renew your vows)! Lastly…don’t rush the process. If you have to wait a little over a year to find a venue that suits you guys…it won’t be the end of the world. Waiting does suck…but you’ve waited this long to get engaged…don’t rush the fun part. 🙂

Post # 5
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know all about the agony associated with finding the right venue.  We’ve been engaged since July 2011, and only just last week found our venue… over a year of looking around. I was so beyond frustrated, bitter and done with wedding planning because of it. Hang in there, and consider lots of different options.

Also consider the possibility of not being able to have the wedding on the exact date you want it (we originally wanted October 2012, but when that didn’t come together we ended up with 2013 instead… and that’s OKAY!)

I also encourage you to sit tight on wedding planning until you actually get engaged. I TOTALLY understand the excitement and tingling desire to pre-plan because you think that if you don’t start planning a wedding X months in advance, it won’t come together.  But that is completely untrue. 

And this is just me so feel free to take with a grain of salt… but before we were engaged, I had pre-planned our wedding down to the last detail. And it was going to be in a barn too! Then after we got engaged… our priorities changed and it became less about the “vision” of the wedding. Also, having a limited budget since we are paying for things ourselves put things into perspective as well (it’s easy to plan the dream wedding when you’re not writing checks for it yet). Long story short, over the term of our so far 16-month engagement, everything I thought I wanted before changed… and now we’re planning a tiny little wedding at a bed and breakfast. And it didn’t matter what I planned before our engagement, because here we are now.

So just slow down… and I hate hearing this advice myself, but I’m giving it to you: Everything WILL work out the way it’s supposed to.  Enjoy your relationship.

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