Post # 1
Since getting engaged I have maintained some friendships, but have had a hard time keeping in touch with others. THe thing is i get busy. And once i’m busy, time flies. Before i know it, it’s been weeks since i’ve talked or called back a friend and then i feel anxious
🙁 i feel bad and i dnt want to lose my friends, i just get very anxious to return a phone call, or to talk on the phone, espeicaly if its been a while. does anyone else feel like this?
Post # 3
It gets worse the closer your wedding gets. I’m finding it hard to fit even my own parents in with all the stuff we now need to do on our weekends (we both work full time).
Also I am finding that a lot of my friends make plans with me (or vice versa) and then back out at the last minute for various reasons. Guess I’m not the only busy one!
Post # 4
@doubtingdebbieah: The same thing has happened to us, but we don’t really care about it to be honest. As you get older, priorities change. It happens. Friendships either adapt to the changing circumstances or they end.
Post # 5
None of my girlfriends live near me anymore We’re sort of spread out around the country now. I haven’t talked to my best friend since April…we have to plan phone dates as we’re both really busy. We all try to see each other when we can, but it’s usually only during the holidays. I don’t have a problem with the phone though, whenever I managed to get on the phone with one of my girls, we usually talk for a good hour or so. And then we can go weeks or months between conversations. We could probably do better and talk more often, but we’ve managed to keep in touch and can pick up right where we left off.
These are my girlfriends from my hometown. I have new friends that I currently go to grad school with, so I see them all the time.
Post # 6
It happens. Ever since my wedding, some of my friendships have changed and we talk less and less. We aren’t too worried about it, the ones we stay in contact with are the ones who matter, why should I have to be the one to always send a text or call the others in order to stay in touch?
Post # 7
I have not experienced the same thing. But what I want to say is that don’t worry. What are you busy at? Wedding planning? Why not to discuss with your friends. It is a good chance to communicate with them. If I were your friends, I would not be unhappy just because you don’t contact with me, thinking of your condition now.
Post # 8
@doubtingdebbieah: I am the same way with the anxiety. You just have to remind yourself that your friends will be happy to hear from you and would rather that you contact them instead of letting the anxiety get in the way. I moved to be with FI and don’t have any friends in this area, but even before that my good friends were already spread out around the country. Phone calls/texts, emails, and FB messages are all we have, and we’re all guilty of lagging responses. I’ve learned to get past my anxiety about it and just getting in touch with them. If they’re real friends, they’ll understand.