(Closed) Trouble Letting Go…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


I think its great that your mother wants to help out so much and give you a big day,but if your not that keen on spending much money,maybe sit down with your mother and tell her your just not comfortable with it all,and maybe make some suggestions as to how she CAN help,maybe a photgrapher and caterer. Or if she really does want to give you the full shebang,try and keep it as low key as possible.

With our wedding,I have the same attitude, I dont care about invites,napkins,even table seating.To me,as long as we have a ceremony,food and people we love around us,all is good!

But if you mum insists,well…… lol 🙂

Post # 5
374 posts
Helper bee

Hi.  maybe she’s reluctant to have you have a court housemarriage.  Try suggesting something more traditional for a service and see if she bends toward a less lavish affair.

Maybe she had court house or simple wedding and she wanted more for you?  Is she living through your wedding perhaps?

Do you have a country home or does he?  You could go there, which would limit your guests and keep it down to a more intimate wedding.

Or find a venue which has a limited amount of seating and say that’s where you want it, which will limit your guests nicely without hassle.

Keep in touch.

Post # 6
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it’s really sweet your mum is so involved in your wedding, she’s probably been planning your wedding for longer than you have! I understand it’s hard to co-plan what is your and your FI’s love celebration but to many people (especially parents) weddings are more a family affaird than a bridal couple only event. Plus, she probably wants to make sure you get a fabulous ‘send off’ you can remember years down the line and tell your kids about.

There are plenty of things you can do to keep your mum occupied that don’t cost much money, I don’t know what you’re thinking in terms of decorations of invites but I’m going to get my mum to help do a lot of it. Cost effective and keeps her out of trouble 🙂

Also, ask your mum about friends and family that can help. Maybe she knows someone who could video the wedding or make the cake? Things like that will keep her busy trying to find the right people and also keep costs down.

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