Post # 1
My wedding is in July of 2013, so I have over a year and a half.
So I recently started a new job and haven’t been spending a lot of time with my old co workers. One of my old co workers I have been close with for 4 years, but I know she’s not really supportive of the wedding. She pretends to be, but I know it’s always in the back of her head. I’ve only spent time with her about 4 times in the last 2 months (I haven’t seen her in over a month and have only talked to her twice via text) and I feel like it’s always me making the initiative. However, I think she assumes she’ll be a bridesmaid because i’m not close to many people.
Then I’ve been at this new job for 2 months and become really close with 2 girls. We went to a bridal show together and we’re going to go look at a venue and they’re helping me with questions. They are super involved. Would it be WEIRD to ask these girls who I’ve only known for 2 months?! Would you be weirded out? They enjoy helping me plan, but is asking to be a bridesmaid too much?
Then I kinda feel bad I haven’t asked anyone because these girls from my new job and taking on the responsibilities of bridesmaids so maybe they expect me to ask them? I have over a year till the wedding so when should I make this decision? I got engaged 2 months ago and have purposely been waiting because I had a feeling I would be losing contact with some old friends. Do you think my new friends will think I’m only asking them because I don’t have anyone else? Because that’s not really what it is, I think my new friends are people I’ll be close with for years. I guess I’m just confused!
Post # 3
I think if they are doing all these things a bridesmaid normally does then I don’t think it would be weird to ask them
Post # 4
@ItsDestiny: Thanks! That’s what I was thinking.. I just needed to hear others opinions to see if they’d be creeped out lol
Post # 5
No, I’d be excited! It’s always fun to form new friendships and this could only make you guys closer. If you’re really worried about it though you can still wait a couple more months to ask. I waited 3-4 months to ask all of my girls and my Fiance still hasn’t asked all of his side of the party yet.
Post # 6
@anenglish15: I dont think its weird at all but can I suggest waiting till the end of the year to ask them? Anything can happen in a year when it comes to friendships and weddings. I would wait a bit longer.
Post # 7
I agree that you have a lot of time and it might be a good idea to wait and see how your new friendships pan out. 2 months isn’t really a lot of time to judge if these friendships are long lasting and a lot can happen in a year and a half.
Post # 8
I think it’s a little premature to worry about it. Give it 6 months and see how your friendships stand. The way I would look back at it is – 40 years from now, will I – or will I want to – remember their names when someone asks?
Post # 9
What’s the rush! July 2013 is a long ways off and picking people now (or stressing about it now) is not necessary. I would wait until about 8 months before the wedding. I asked someone at the six months before mark and it wasn’t weird at all. I read an article recently that said that one of the biggest regrets for brides was choosing people really early. Hope this helps and good luck!
Post # 10
Take it from me, a bride that regrets her choice!!! Leave it as long as you can but end of day you pick who you want, its your day!!! Dont be influenced like i was!