Post # 1
Recently, I started traveling about once a week for work and I’ve found that I sleep waaaay better when I’m away than when I’m sharing a bed with my husband. I think it’s because he has really twitchy legs and tosses and turns a lot at night, which wakes me up. On the days I sleep alone, I’m noticably more rested.
A new mattress isn’t really in our budget right now… although down the road getting a King instead of a Queen would probably help. Do you guys have any other suggestions? Do you think a pillowtop mattress cover would help? Or one of those memory foam covers? I’m just trying to think of things that will minimize how much movement I feel?
Post # 3
Definitely get a memory foam mattress pad. We got one from Walmart because FI’s back was bugging him with our mattress and we can’t afford a new mattress right now. It has helped both of us SO much!
They are a bit expensive, though. I think we paid $125 for it? But hey, a full night’s sleep is completely worth it.
Post # 4
We’ve had the same problem for years. The way we’ve solved it is -wait for it, it sounds stupid – putting two single mattresses side-by-side on the frame of a larger bed. Yes, we are students who can’t afford anything better. Someday we’ll get a King…but for the meantime, yes, memory foam has been another good solution, can’t reccomend it enough!
Post # 5
We have a king size bed, but our lifesafer is separate full-sized comforters! He can roll, toss, and turn all night and I stay perfectly covered and don’t get jerked around. When we sleep in hotels, we often debate getting 2 double beds instead of sharing a king because we sleep so much better with sparate comforters!
Post # 6
I second the 2 seperate blankets! We sleep with our 2 Lab’s in our bed so it can get crammed. Luckily everyone knows their assigned sleeping spot and we haven’t had any issues. I also sleep with a white noise machine on my nightstand. FI snores so it helps drown him out. I love it and can’t sleep without it now! Best thing I have ever bought!
Post # 7
We have the same problem. I am an incredibly light sleeper and my husband snores and tosses and turns like a fish out of water.
Our solution for now is not sleeping together. Most nights he sleeps on the couch and I sleep in the bed. Most people find it odd but it works for us.
Post # 8
@CanAmBride: Separate full sized comforters? GENIUS!
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Memory foam mattress will make a big difference and then save up for a king. Once you get a king you won’t go back to a queen. We enjoy our snuggle time but “don’t touch me when I’m sleeping!” We also have separate comforters.
Post # 10
I second the memory foam mattress suggestion. You can’t feel your partner move at all.
Post # 11
@pengoala: We actually came about this solution by accident. When we lived separately and had our own queen sized beds, we happened to both want new comforters around the same time. We went shopping and both liked the same one, so we bought one for each of our houses. When we moved in together and bought our king bed, we thought “lets just use our old comforters while we decorate and then we can buy a king comforter together”. When we realized how GREAT it was to have our own blankets, we scrapped the idea of buying a new one!
Post # 12
My husband and I had a double bed for 3 years, and it was terrible for sleeping. We did the two blankets for a while, and it did help. Then we got a dog, and she slept with us, and we actually started sleeping in separate beds because my husband had no room, and could not sleep at all. The best thing we ever did was buy a king size bed (for both our sleeping, and our relationship).
Post # 13
I would make getting a King size bed a priority, start saving for it. We have a King size bed, it’s awesome! I have trouble sleeping when we visit his or my parents, both of which have Queen size beds for us to sleep on. I hate being touched when I sleep, and I want my space and room to sprawl out and roll around.
Post # 14
You can get good memory foam mattresses on Overstock for between $500-700. They aren’t as good as the Tempurpedic, but are a very good alternative. I bought a queen from them and used it for a couple years then went back when we got a king sized bed. Much cheaper than a regular mattress too!
Post # 15
Right now, my husband and I actually sleep in different rooms. We started out that way because he was overweight and snored horribly. Now that he’s lost weight, he’s much quieter, but he still doesn’t sleep well lying flat in a bed, and we’re just used to sleeping seperately. When we went to Europe, all of our beds had two twin mattresses in a king frame, and we slept great. Neither one of us felt the other move or get up, and the bed was large enough that we never touched each other. It was amazing, and we plan on doing that when we upgrade our queen. If this is important to you, I’d definitely prioritize getting a larger bed, and I’d even consider getting two twin XL mattresses and putting them in a king frame.