Post # 1
This is my first post here, so first of all….
Hi, my name is Lily 🙂 I’m 28 years old. I’ve been down the road of watching literally every last one of my friends get married, and now we’re in the phase where many of them are getting pregnant. Meanwhile I’ve stumbled through a series of bad or abusive relationships and awkward dates. I’ve been through quite a lot, but have finally found someone wonderful!
It’s only been 5 months that we’ve been dating, but I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is it. I know it seems quick, but I’ve seen enough of the wrong ones to know the right one 🙂 Having been to hell and back, I’m generally pretty logical about these things-I have had opportunities (my ex even bought a ring), but I’ve only ever wanted to get married if it was to the RIGHT guy–and I’ve never seen a future or felt this way about anyone else. So naturally I am very, very excited!!
I know that my boyfriend feels the same way. It is only a matter of time before we get engaged and married, and I’m pretty sure he would propose tomorrow if I let him. But he knows that it’s important to me to date for at least a year (I know it sounds arbitrary, but I just want us to take our time and be sure) before getting engaged. He’s actually asked me how long he has to wait before I would say yes.
Which of course just makes me even more excited and makes it even harder to wait! I am so excited to start our lives together, and I’m starting to experience wedding fever–something I’ve never given much thought to before, beyond “I would want a chocolate cake, yummm!”
I need some help calming myself down, so if anyone here has been there, or is there, or isn’t there and has some thoughts, I’d be really grateful to hear them.
Post # 3
Awww! It sounds like you two are wonderful together and very much in love 🙂 Congrats!!!
I do Mr. Bee’s plan to help my wedding fever! You can find it here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/mr-bees-three-step-plan-and-backup-plan-for-getting-engaged
I’ve been doing the back up plan for a couple months now. I’ve taken on a few new hobbies, like reading books, scrapbooking, starting a new girly tv series, working out more, hanging with friends more, and now I’m looking into taking a class at my community college.
The plan helps give you a sense of control and forget about that sense of wedding urgency that tends to grow on you.
I have ups and downs with my wedding fever. The past few weeks have been a wedding flu fest for me. It’s really only because we moved across the country and looking at wedding stuff is mre fun than looking at jobs :). I need to get back on the Bee Plan.
Post # 4
A year will fly by so quickly! What I have done to make the time pass is to quietly start thinking of what I want in terms of colours and details and writing them all down. It is like planning.. without actually planning yet. It takes care of the fever and makes me feel like it is closer. All the sudden a year will pass, you are almost already 1é2 way there and hasnt time flown already?
I am so happy for you! good luck 🙂
Post # 5
Welcome to the boards!
Sounds like you’re in a good position 🙂
I would suggest having some discussions about the future – the less fun ones – to know for sure that you are well matched. You may have already discussed these things, but it’s important that you’re on the same page before you get married. So things like kids (yes/no/how many), religion, finances (do either of you have debt, is one a spender, one a saver, etc.), where you’ll live (same country? same city? buy a house together? rent? etc.), and things like that. I think that with time these things are discussed, and you may already know the answer to all of these, but as long as you agree on the big things then I see no problem in getting engaged in a few months. I think that’s why people set timelines for relationships… so all this stuff comes out.
If you have some of these discussions and are really future focused for the next few months then I think that time will fly by and you will be all set to get married. Of course you need to stay in the moment and enjoy life as well, but you seem to be doing that already.
You can also get addicted to Weddingbee like I am lol.. then you have a place where you can talk/vent w. likeminded people so you don’t drive your guy mad with wedding talk 🙂