Post # 1
I was considering myself lucky when everything was going as planned. I picked the perfect dress for my bridesmaids and they ALL look gorgeous in it! My youngest bridesmaid is my fiance’s little sister. His stepmom was going to pay for his sisters dresses and we all went to the store about a year ago to get their sizes. The youngest sister didn’t fit into the dress (she is really tall but really thin). So we tried on some other dresses similar to the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. The stepmom kept trying on A-line dresses (mine are all pick-ups) and she asked me what I thought. At that time I didnt know if it would look ok or not with only her in a different dress. Well last month I told her they had to go back and get a dress since the wedding is in January. I told her to get the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and get it altered. She tried it on and said the smallest was too small and they next size was way too big. So she went ahead and bought the a-line. We never officially agreed on if I was okay with that or not. I told her to try on a jr Bridesmaid or Best Man pick-up dress but she didnt. I was upset that she went ahead and bought the a-line when I know she will stick out like a sore thumb. The stepmom said she didnt want to pay the extra money to get the regular dress hemmed so she bought the a-line. I told her I was not okay with that and she said there is no other option. YES there is.. i told her to get it hemmed elsewhere. She ignores me and bought the dress….
Bees…is there a better way to handle this or should I just suck it up and let it go?
Post # 3
Is it possible for you to offer to help out with the alterations?
How much is the price difference between the two dresses? I frankly would be livid since it was not agreed upon for her to buy the A-Line.
Post # 4
It was like $60 cheaper for the Jr dress. But I told her I have family that do alterations and to buy the regular Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and do that… but I have yet to get a response. I dont know weither to ignore it and live with it (as much as I hate the idea of someone else sticking out in the line up besides me!) or keep pushing the issue…
Post # 5
@Ktrader21: First of all, let me assure you that as the BRIDE, you WILL steal the show. Period. People are coming to watch you and your Fiance, not the wedding party. But regardless, I would purchase the dress you’d like her to wear and pay for the alterations. Do I think that’s fair? Not really, but at least then she’s wearing what you want her to wear. If you can live with her standing out, then go that route. Perhaps you can compromise and she can wear your dress for the ceremony and photos, then change for the reception if she prefers the other style? Just an idea! Hope it works out 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Gables at Chadds Ford
Can you post photos of the dresses? How old is she? Are you considering her a “junior” bridesmaid? If she is last in the line of girls (furthest away from you), and not in the middle of the other girls wearing the same dress, it would make me feel a little better about it. As long as it is the same material and color as the other girls, it might end up being fine. Your other option is to try calling the store, see if you can make an exchange of the A-line for the pickup dress you want for her, and then pay for alterations or price difference if needed. No matter what, you will definitely have all eyes on you- people will think it’s intentional that the youngest girl had a different dress. As much as us brides worry about things, everyone attending the wedding thinks things were supposed to be the way they ended up!