(Closed) Trouble with Guests

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I Invite them?
    Invite them, be the bigger person : (17 votes)
    65 %
    Don't invite them! Only the best of the best should be there! : (8 votes)
    31 %
    Other - I'll explain below : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    1165 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Well, the general rule is that anyone who gets a STD, gets a invitation. I’ve seen threads like the before and I think the general consensus is that you should still invite them to the wedding, but if things are as bad as you think they are, they probably won’t come anyway.

    Post # 4
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’d invite them to the wedding for the reasons stated by PP. Not the shower.

    Post # 5
    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would invite them to the wedding not the shower. I don’t think you will have any problems or need to worry about it being awkward if they do come because most of the time people don’t act up when with a group. You will be surrounded by your nearest and dearest and that should keep things civil. Just relax and enjoy your big day.

    Post # 6
    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I second (fifth?) all the PPs.

    Post # 7
    2600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Agreed. You may find it works itself out – if they catch wind of the other coming they may just both decide to skip it.

    Good luck!

    Post # 8
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    I voted invite them, though I disagree with it being due to being a bigger person.

    You are fufilling the obligation that you set forth with the STD.  I agree with the rest that she probably won’t come anyway.


    Post # 9
    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Just invite them.. If they come cool, if they dont oh well. Dont get to stressed.

    Post # 10
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    If you aren’t friends with them anymore, I don’t see a reason to invite them to the wedding. Even if you have already given them a STD. However, you are working with one girl… so to keep things professional, I would invite her if it were me. Who knows, you could become friends again in the future. Basically, do what you want to do. But I wouldn’t invite them to an intimate bridal shower if they were being mean to me.

    Post # 11
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I don’t think it’s very nice to take back an invitation that you’ve already extended. But they probably won’t come if the friendship is that bad. And if they do come, maybe they would like to work on making the friendships better.

    Post # 12
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wouldn’t invite them, save the date or not, maybe with the exception of your coworker. If you aren’t speaking or very friendly, I would think they would expect to not be invited, and I would only invite the co-worker to keep the peace at work.

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