Trouble with hotel rooms for wedding

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Is June 5th the correct date? If it’s a thursday night I bet the majority of people will head home early and go to work on Friday. If that’s the wrong date and it’s a Friday/Saturday it’s likely some will stay and some will go home. How long are you paying for the open bar?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would provide the names and rates of hotels in the neighborhood. If you hold a block of rooms at a neighboring hotel (say 10 rooms at each hotel) they might give you a lower, negotiated rate. This will provide your guests with the option to book rooms if they want to but not feel awkward or obligated to crash on your couch/floor/bathtub.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I would rather have my guests leave early than spend my wedding night with a bunch of people crashed on the floor, in cots, etc.

I would suggest that your guests could rent rooms in the less expensive hotels, and take taxis.  Alternatively, they could spend the $170 for a closer room (that’s really not expensive for a hotel room).

But hell would freeze over before my wedding night suite would look like a fraternity house with sleeping people everywhere.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @elliptical2013:  first and foremost, I see this is your DEBUT post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

1.5 Hours would be too long a drive for me after a Wedding / Party… as I like to kick back and enjoy myself.  So I for one would be taking a Hotel Room in the area

(And ya, I’d be waaay to uncomfortable to shack up with your guys on your Wedding Night… truly not how things are meant to be.  A Wedding Night is a truly “sacred” time between a Man & Wife, even if they’ve been living together.  Married & Single are very much too different things in life… which is WHY we make a big deal out of the event of getting married to begin with)

Otherwise, as you’ve noted, people are probably gonna stop partying earlier, and just leave so they can make the long drive home (When Mr TTR & I go to a Wedding, we’ve done both… stay over, or change our plans, and leave early / drive home… but usually if home is more than 1 Hour away we make plans to stay over).

You mention the price of Hotel Rooms… $ 170 is pretty high end for many people… then you mention “cheaper across the bridge”… is there anyway you could find a decent hotel across the Bridge that would give your Guests a good “Group Rate”… and run a shuttle so your Guests wouldn’t have to drive there from the Reception Site. 

Otherwise, honestly it is up to your Guests on what they choose to do… (the downfall of having a Wedding where not the majority of Guests live).  If you didn’t run a shuttle, and I was coming, we’d probably take a cab to and from our Hotel if that was at all practical… otherwise, again we’d have to alter our behaviour so as to not drink & drive (one of us not drink… or leave early, etc)

Hope this helps (somewhat),

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would imagine most guests will go home, since the next day is a weekday.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@elliptical2013:  I think the reason people might leave early is that you’re wedding is on a Thursday. I knwo you wanted to have it on your anniversary, but this isn’t very practical for your guests.

BUT, what’s done is done – so let’s move forward. If you want people to stay over you need to make it convenient for them. Set up a room block and a shuttle service to take people from the hotel to the reception and back. I know Coronado (so beautiful) so if you can’t find a hotel on the island, call hotels near the bridge and see if they offer this. Then, spread the word that you have set up a room block, shuttle, and will be hosting a morning after breakfast. This all says to your guests “we want you to stay! we’re willing to accomodate you!”. If guests still don’t stay, well it is what it is.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The clubhouse sounds nice for a brunch. However, a brunch wouldn’t be worth me taking off a day of work personally unless it were my sister or daughters wedding. Maybe try to get a feel for if people are planning on staying. Since it’s such an intimate wedding these people are likely very close to you and may be willing to stay the extra day. Just depends on your guests. Either way I’m sure it will be lovely. 

Maybe you could do the open bar until 10 in case people do leave early. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Ok, with the confirmation your wedding is indeed on a Thursday night, I would in all likelihood leave early unless I was in the BP or your were a close family member. 3 hours of driving, $100-$200 on a hotel, and 1.5-2 days of vacation time would be more than I would be willing to sacrifice to attend a wedding.

 

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