- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Hey bees, I have a quite complicated situation on my hands that I could use some advice for! I’m sure at least some of you have experienced something similar, and even if you haven’t, I would greatly appreciate any input.
This is a bit of a long story!! I apologize in advance. Here’s a bit about me:
L and I have been dating since 2010 and now have a 5 month old baby boy together who we love dearly and he has bought us even closer. L told me a couple of weeks ago that he bought an engagement ring for me (which I wasn’t surprised about since we picked it out together!), so I’m waiting for a proposal any day now. I was hoping it would happen on Christmas, but now I seriously doubt that. Here’s why:
In the beginning of November, L’s catholic brother sent us a nasty text and made some rude comments on my FB about our lack of relgion. It’s never been an issue, and we’ve always respected his beliefs and thought he respected ours too. Aparently not. He went as far to say that we’re negative and spiteful people (not true!), and that he’s concerned about our son growing up in our home. This again is because we are not catholic.
We were obviously hurt by these comments and tried multiple times to talk to him on the phone to work things out by Thanksgiving so it wouldn’t be awkward for their parents (who I have also grown close to over the years).
Well, Thanksgiving rolls around and nothing. I was still so hurt by his comments that for most of Thanksgiving I was trying to hold back tears and stop myself from talking about it since they decided to pretend nothing happened. L was also trying to pretend nothing happened, even though we were still hurt.
The morning after Thanksgiving we finally talked to him and his wife. Let’s just say it didn’t go well and both parties left even more upset then before.
Then nothing for weeks. Finally, I found out that L sent an email to them apologizing for making things awkward at Thanksgiving. Okay, but not how I felt. So I sent this email:
I just found out today that L sent you both letters of apology recently.
What I’d like to say is that I don’t feel I have anything to apologize for, and am still not okay with what was said about Levi and me.
In spite of this, I’m willing to let things go between us and pretend it didn’t happen for the sake of L and T’s parents who have done nothing wrong and just want to have a nice holiday.”””””””””
T’s response…to L:
SO many lies in there, for example about not sending negative things to his wife. Um, what? That email is the only thing she’s ever received from me.
So what I need advice on. What do I do from here? L’s dad has pretty much taken T’s side for some reason, but L’s mom REALLY wants me to come to Xmas. I don’t think that’s an option. Anyone? Any similar future or current in-law situations?
Thanks, bees!! 🙂