- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
Help! My girls are all grown and on their own & I am a Grandma 2ce. My FH has 4 boys ages 11-21. FH has full custody of 1 and joint over 2 others. One is diffcult at best. He has/is been in trouble. Mom does not set rules and FH does not know where he is most of the time because of it. Now the court has stepped in & set the rules at a minimum or boy will go juvenile. I am willing to help as FH seems totally out of his element on this. I was a strict but fair discipinarian with my girls & although they did not like it as teens, they stayed out of trouble & now respect me & the way they were raised. They are even raising their kids with the same rules.
I have put together the rules as I see they should (earn privleges back) be but, I do not know how to approach this with FH. If these rules are not enforced I cannot move into the house & take the risk of my things being destroyed or stolen which this boy has done to his father & brother in the past. Even though FH is a teacher and coach he does not require anything of his kids. I think it goes to being in a school district that everything is twisted around by the kids & parents that is said by a teacher so, he just does not say things. Also, the Mom is lazy when it comes to kids, household, etc & I am not. These kids do not know how to do anything and no one picks up for them either. They have lived in household chaos all their lives and FH has done what he could but it has been an up hill battle that has worn out over 20 years.
I really need help. Wedding is in 3 weeks and I have alot going on emotionally not just over this but over a lot of other things as well with the death of my Mother and problems that have now raised themselves with her estate and planning a wedding too while trying to clean up a 7 bedroom house to move into that has never been cleaned in 10 yrs.
I think I want to crawl in a hole and hide!