(Closed) Truly Surprised at some people. Do they really not know any different (vent)

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: If you could do so without anyone thinking poorly of it would you ask for money and how?
    On Shower Invitation? : (0 votes)
    On Website? : (2 votes)
    6 %
    With Wedding Invite? : (2 votes)
    6 %
    Through word of mouth via BM's? : (9 votes)
    27 %
    Never? : (16 votes)
    48 %
    Other (explain)? : (0 votes)
    I would ask if there was an acceptable way : (4 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Gotta love the family! nobody else will! LOL

    Post # 4
    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Wow, that would irritate me as well. I thought you weren’t supposed to invite people to the shower if they weren’t invited to the wedding… That just sounds gift grabby. Honestly, in that situation, the thought of “I’m good enought to invite to a gift giving party, but not to the wedding?” would cross my mind.

    I had to grin at your last comment though, panhandling at a shower… maybe they’ll have a collection jar.

    Post # 5
    276 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It IS in poor taste. I, like you find that people cease to amaze me when it comes to common tact. Just be glad it’s them and not you. Honestly, some people never get it and can’t be taught it =) If theyre not embarrassed for themselves then oh well, don’t be embarrassed for them! 

    Post # 6
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Wow. That is in TERRIBLE taste…and then to put monetary gifts preferred is just blah rude! Especially since your mom isn’t invited to the wedding. I would decline and give them a congrats card, no money, no gift card, no NOTHING!



    Post # 7
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Ugh, if that was me, after having it happen multiple times, I would be SOOO tempted to write something snotty back like “Your shower gift will arrive at your house after the wedding invitation arrives at mine…”


    I wouldn’t actually go through with it but that is just soooo one of the things that would tick me off.

    Post # 8
    11172 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I did not realize people actually did this! That is so incredibly tacky. I’m pretty stunned. Why not just send a letter asking for money…why bother even having a shower at all??

    Post # 9
    1571 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Oh my goodness, this is crazy! I hope she doesn’t go and bring these people presents!

    Post # 10
    9552 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have to say I don’t think it’s rude to ask for money instead of stuff (I already have a lot of stuff and I’m kind of worried how I’m going to fill out a registry). However, I do find it in poor taste to invite someone to a shower but not the wedding and/or reception.

    Post # 13
    745 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I don’t think asking for money is any better or worse than having registry information. Though, inviting someone who isn’t on the guest list is pretty bad.

    Post # 14
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    don’t go!

    Post # 15
    580 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Woh! That’s taking the pan.

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