(Closed) Divorce statistics scare me!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Nope.  Because the only marriage I can do anything about or have any stake in is my own.

Post # 4
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Statistics suck-yeah, Just remeber that outliers exist, and that for the ~ 50% that fail- there are ~50% that make it.

Fiance is divorced from his first wife. In that regard, I’m happy that his was one of the 50% of marriages that failed!

Post # 5
4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012


Post # 6
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

@the_future_mrs:  ditto. 🙂 my hubby’s first marriage didn’t work out either. 

Post # 7
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Nope.  We’ll prove everyone wrong.

Post # 8
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Here’s how I see it: I know so many couples who have no business being together. I know people who have been married 3+ times and people who get married for the wrong reasons. I always figure those are the people that drive the statistics up. 

Post # 9
853 posts
Busy bee

Ya, statistics like that are pretty scary. But I think @strawbabies has it bang on—the only marriage that you have any stake in is your own.

Post # 10
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It scares me for my friends. There are a few that I am so so worried about. 

As for my own, we are both committed to putting in a ton of effort to make it work. I’m walking in to our marriage with a great deal of faith. 

Post # 11
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

When you stand at the end of the aisle (and hopefully several times before that!) you should have a few seconds to go ‘hmm.. still the right thing’.. and if it overwhelmingly is then you entered that marriage with the determination to see it through forever.


I think alot of the time people are in love with the idea of ‘love’ but not in it. They expect partners to change to fit them, and vice versa. Divorce has become acceptable and ok. You shouldnt be entering a marriage thinking it will ever be an option, otherwise you aren’t 100% in it. If you still find yourself walking down that aisle after posing the ‘is this the right thing?’ question and you are grinning ear to ear – you’ll be ok 🙂

Post # 12
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hmm, sometimes but not hugely. FH’s is from a culture where they only really start seeing someone if they can see themselves married to that person. We were 25 when we got together and he’d never had a girlfriend before. So I know his culture has impacted his life decisions and that he is serious about this.

He has a huge family, and out of the literal hundreds of them only 2 have divorced and 1 of those was doomed from the start – apparently everybody knew it would end quickly. The rest of them seem to have/are married for life.

I think the only thing that bugs me about statistics is when some smug or bitter person uses the statistic to shove it down your throat when you mention you’re getting married soon or something. That’s annoying. But at the same time, kind of shows they are just miserable so-and-so’s.

Post # 13
1020 posts
Bumble bee

Umm…divorce rates have been flat, if not declining since the 1980s. But that’s mainly because fewer people are marrying to begin with.

Also, celebrity marriages are probably some of the riskiest, but not because of what some people think. It’s mainly because celebrities tend to marry other celebrities, and they won’t have much time to spend alone, if it is even possible (long distance phases in celebrity relationships are quite common).

Yeah…everyone else’s points apply too. I just had to get those two points in the OP off my chest. 

Post # 14
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well, and I have a friend who is on marriage number 3 because she just kept saying yes to people she shouldn’t have.  So keep in mind that the number is also filled with people who really don’t give a shit about marriage and just did it.  YOU will be different because you made sure in your heart of hearts that your partner was the right person first.  Right?  RIGHT??  😉

Post # 15
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Not really, I know everyone thinks they’ve ‘got it’ and it won’t happen to them but I really would be shocked if we ended in divorce. We are absolutely perfect for each other and make a great team. And as @the_future_mrs: said, my fiance has already been divorced once. He knows what not to do. We call that his practice run.

Post # 16
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yes, I am terrified of cheating! I have been cheated on before which doesn’t help and there are so many shocking stories on here too…. I know it’s not in my hands though. My biggest fear is always that I think I know someone so well but what if I don’t?! 

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