- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2009
Hello, I am a long time poster but decided to make an anonymous post due to never have posting anything about this. Before DH and I were married we dated for about 4 years. a little before our 3rd year of dating I found out through Myspace (of all places) that he had been unfaithful. He of course denied it and after a day or so he admitted to it and we had a long talk. It was then that I told him I was not in any position to keep playing around, I wanted to be in a relationship that was going to lead to marriage & if he didnt feel the same and wanted to keep being unfaithful he needed to keep moving and leave me alone. I found out about the cheating about a year after it happened and he no longer had communication with the female. He said they kissed on two occasions and it was nothing more than that. I chose to forgive him and we went on to have a wild recovery process for I dont even remember how many months. about a year later, we got married. It was talked about one month and the next month we eloped. I am a very insecure person although I try not to show it. He does not give me a reason to think he is still cheating. We are always together and hardly do things without eachother, other than sports (hobbies) a few times a week. However it is hard for me to be fully secure with him, myself and our relationship. I know these are all things I should have thought about before we got married but we are married now & ultimately I am happy except scared. I dont want to live my life like this and need advice. One example is every time a new friend is added on his facebook I get a very insecure feeling and I dont like it, i go and research how he could possibly know this person, or if a text message comes in on his phone I wonder who it is (i never search his phone). Its not the way I want to live. HELP!