Post # 1
I have a strong indication that my husband has been lying to me ever since the early days when we started talking. It is not so much about what he is lying about but more so that whenever I confront him about it he keeps on saying that he isn’t lying. The lie is about him having made a customized sink for his cousin with left over tile pieces. He insists that he made it. I have never been to his cousin’s house but his girlfriend has just invited us over for dinner next week so inevitably I will find out if it is true or not. I am just wondering how I should react when I actually see that this sink he has been talking about doesn’t even exist?
I would love to have your constructive input.
Post # 3
I don’t mean to be rude, but this is a strange post!
I guess ask him about it after you go to his cousin’s house?
Post # 4
Why would he lie about something like that though? I would just ask the cousin. Does he maybe “exaggerate” his stories to make himself look good? I know many guys that do that; especially our one friend in the military. We just laugh it off; but it’s nothing I would consider something that breaks my trust personally.
Post # 5
Edit: I know you said it isn’t so much about what, but how you should act. Honestly I wouldn’t say anything there in front of them if in fact it isn’t true. I would wait till you got home and then say something about it. But…if it is indeed true, you should compliment him at his cousins and apologize to him for questioning him in the first place.
Post # 6
I really thought it was going to be some big lie, like he was cheating on you or somethng. A sink? Even if he didn’t make the sink, maybe he was trying to impress you. Or maybe he actually made the sink. Why would he lie about a sink? Just talk to him after the dinner if you go and don’t see the sink.
Post # 7
No offense, but you sound like my mother. I don’t know how or why but over the years she’s turned into this neurotic person who doesn’t believe a word anyone says. I am unclear as to whether or not your FI has a history of lies and exaggeration, if so, I guess you are justified and I apologize profusely. If not, you really might consider getitng therapy for your trust issues. I’ve tried to get my mom to seek therapy for her relationship trust issues, but she won’t admit she has a problem. She ruins all of her relationships this way. She accuses the men of lying so much that it drives them to end up lying. Then, when she finds out about a lie, whether big or small, she erupts into a rage. I have np idea why you’re dwelling so much on a sink. Unless, of course your FI has a history of little white lies, or there are some other circumstances on which you have not elaborated on. Maybe, when you can, try to explain this a little further. I don’t want to beat you up without knowing all the details, but if you do have a trust issue, you owe it to yourself to seek therapy to identify underlying causes. It would save you a lot of stress!
Post # 8
Are you worried that he is some kind of pathalogical liar? The sink thing sounds strange but maybe harmless. But if you have doubts about everything he says – then it’s a problem. I’ve known people like this… who tell fake stories and half truths all the time. There is no way I’d want to be married to someone like that.
But maybe your husband is just exaggerating? My FI exaggerates lots… I laugh it off! And I don’t always believe the stats and quotes he gives me from the news because he gets them wrong sometimes!