Post # 1
I only have my MOH in my bridal party, no other bridesmaids. She and I have talked about her dress and what she wants to spend (she decided she would rather pay for the dress & have me get her something else as a gift) so I know that this dress isn’t out of her price range but it’s $200. I hate asking her to pay that much but I looooove the dress. http://watters.com/Product/WtooDresses/915/
What do you think Bees? Should I go ahead and tell her this is the one I want or keep looking to see if I find one I like as much that is less expensive?
Post # 3
You should talk to her about it. Maybe when she tries it on she’ll love it, or hate it. It won’t hert suggesting it. If it is out of her budget and you both love it would you be willing to pay for some of it?
Post # 4
Did she tell you how much she was willing to pay?? If so and this is below, then go for it!!
Post # 5
@Miss Smashville: If $200 isn’t out of the price range you discussed, I don’t see the problem.
Post # 6
I would talk to her and have her try on the dress to see if she likes it if you are concerned with the price.
I was having a very similar issue. I really like a Wtoo dress but thought that $200 was a lot to ask my bridesmaids to pay for a dress even though they said they are ok with the price. I personally wanted it keep it closer to $150, but they said they would be willing to pay a little more because they really like the Wtoo dresses as well. Knowing that they like the dress makes me feel not as bad about the price. Even though they are ok with it, I still might chip in $25 on each dress just to ease my conscience.
I love the dress you are considering, btw. I am going with a different Wtoo dress that looked better on my girls, but that is one of my favorites.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies :o) I did talk to her about it. It is in her price range so it’s just that I hate asking her to spend that much (even though she’s ok with it…my head is a twisty confusing place). We’re going to go look at several dresses together so she can try them on & see how she feels in them.
Post # 8
Have you thought about getting the exact same dress made by a seamstress? The only challenge is finding one of course. But maybe your friends can refer you to one? Just an idea..
Post # 9
I say let her pay. If you’re really having a problem with asking her. When she buys, put $50 in her hand and say non-negotiable and smile.
If you have asked what she’d like to spend and she has confirmed a price, don’t argue anymore. That’s probably even more annoying you think she can’t afford it. So drop it. At which point just give her money and don’t let her decline. That way you both win.
Post # 10
try finding the dress on prefectbridal.com…they are a lot less over there …good luck
Post # 11
I’d rather pay $200 for a dress I loved than $150 for a dress that I’m “meh” about. I think if she’s discussed the price point, and this is within it that’s fine.
Worst comes to worst, chip in if you really can’t handle the guilt.