Post # 1
…about STILL being neither engaged nor married at this point both in my life and in the year. I think I can honestly say it’s really agonizing. I saw a good friend of mine from college on Friday night who was teasing my BF and asking him what he got me for Christmas, and when he gave the “Oh I don’t know… I’m not telling” bullet-dodging response, she said “I hear this is the year of fine jewelry!” and he just kind of chuckled in an awkward way…then I was at a party tonight where literally 1/3 to a half of the time I was at the party was spent talking about weddings and engagement rings… not to mention that it seems highly likely that the couple hosting the party will be getting engaged over the holidays….
I feel like I’m living out one of my favorite childhood books that was called But Not the Hippopotamus (if you’ve never read or heard of it, it’s a book about all these different animals that can do different, and each page ends with “…but not the Hippopotamus” because the Hippo is always feeling or being left out). I know I’m preaching to the choir, and I know it’s only a matter of time, but I just can’t help being bummed out about it. I feel like there’s some sort of cosmic force aligning to rub in my unnecessaarily long singledom. Sigh.
Thanks for listening bees!
Post # 3
I’m so sorry you feel sad Jaxx. I’m sure that it is coming sooner than you think it will and we are here to vent!
And you aren’t the hippopotamus!
Post # 4
((HUGS)) rest assured we’re here. i burst into tears a few months ago when i learned that ALL of my former classmates were married 😀 ALL OF THEM! I was like OMG… I think if I would have stayed in TN and not gone away for college perhaps that would have been me except it would have been to the wrong person.
our times will come too.. soon enough this time will seem but a distant memory
Post # 5
I’m so sorry that u are feeling this way but i 2nd crebre, our time will come. hopefully soon!!!!
Post # 8
oh Jaxx… I feel the same way…
Post # 9
hang in there, youre not the only one who feels that way
Post # 10
Keep the faith…i get the same feeling … i was down last night for now i found out my cousin spoiled my christmas proposal… but just keep the faith and try to enjoy the rest of the Girlfriend life…
Post # 11
I feel the same way. My anniversary, 1 year, was Friday and I was hoping for it, but it didn’t come. I felt awful, even worse when I saw how many women got engaged on my anniversary weekend. Maybe this will be over soon. I can’t be on the girlfriend list forever.
I am distracting myself with buying a house, so that helps!
Post # 13
I feel the same way, too, especially after C told me that it wouldn’t be until after our cruise in January (even though I told him a while ago that my dream proposal would be a Christmas one). I hope it happens for you soon! I know it can be hard to see so many other people get engaged, even if you’re happy for them.
Post # 14
Fear not! It will happen in all due time.
In the meanwhile, focus on the NOW. I mean the happy parts now. If there’s too much focus on why you aren’t, or on things lacking, your relationship might suffer thus leading to no engagement!
I seriously decided to not mention it at all. It worked. I had a blast this whole entire year and we did amazing things and it all culminated this month with us finally getting engaged.
Try it. I swear it works! And it is also a way to take pressure off of things. Guys do get pressured and I know that the whole time I had felt wierd about this (first few months of 2009) T was actually paying off the ring. It took him until November btw.
Post # 15
Ugh…I know how you feel. I was dreading all the holiday parties for the single reason that I knew many people who were recently engaged and I wasn’t. (Plus all the people asking me if I was getting a ring for Christmas. Which no…I am not.)
The worst was one party where we knew the host but no one else. When we entered the host introduced us to everyone by saying: “Hey guys, this is Hisfirstname Hislastname and Taylor…uhhh….not Hislastname though.”
Gee…thanks for the reminder. :
Post # 16
hang in there jaxx. i know how sucky the feeling is but just remember that everything happens in their due time.