Post # 1
Ok. Maybe I’m a little dramatic. But it FEELS like my wedding is stolen. My Fiance and I got engaged in October, and are planning on getting married August 13, 2011. We finally sat down to put together our wedding website, but we didn’t include the reception details because we are still ‘penciled in’ for our dream reception location (they haven’t officially opened yet). We posted the wedding website, and included the ceremony details, but not the details about the reception.
I swear, not even two hours later, Fiance gets an email from his ex talking about how she just got engaged and she is planning on getting married in the same church, the same reception hall, two weeks BEFORE us. We are getting married in a small tourist town, neither one of us is from there, but we met there, and spent three summers working together up there. Ex is not from there either, but she has family who lives there. Granted there aren’t a lot of places for a reception, but this place issn’t even open yet!
Now, I’m panicking they’ll have the same caterer and same photographer too.
I know it shouldn’t be a huge deal, but it FEELS like one to me. I was so upset when I first found out I just kept telling him “tell her no! tell her no!” Until I sounded so ridiculous I started laughing at myself…
Post # 3
Why is it that big of deal if you have the same everything? Are you inviting the same people?
Post # 4
Is the ex in tight quarters with you? I can understand the feeling but will most people be attending both weddings?
Post # 5
Yeah not sure why this matters unless you have a lot of overlap in the guest list.
Post # 6
You run that risk with small towns.
Post # 7
At least it’s not the same day!
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
The good news is, there is not a huge likelihood that you and your FI’s ex will have much of a guest overlap. 🙂 Not many people will know that you used the same venues. And your weddings are bound to be different, because you’re different people!
Post # 9
I agree with PP you likely don’t have much guest overlap so I don’t really see what the issue is. Also when you go to a small place with limited places you have to expect this. What makes a wedding special is the couple and all the individual details. Even if you do have some double guests I really think it doesn’t matter.
Post # 10
That would freak me out, too.
Post # 11
She’s his ex; she’s in his past, and you’re in his future.
I understand that you’re upset, but this is not worth freaking out over. I know that’s easy for a complete stranger to say, but seriously, just focus on your wonderful fiance and what you two have going on. 🙂
Post # 12
It’s not that I’m worried about her, it’s that I feel like we’re competing now. FI and Ex are still friends, sort of. But we’ve been dating a long time, and I always had the feeling she didn’t approve (which is why they stopped talking for a while) Now all of a sudden she’s engaged after only a few months, and they happen to be getting married the exact same place…two weeks before. It just kind of sucks. My mom had I have had a blast planning this. I know the likelihood of someone else having a similar wedding, but it’s a tourist town. There are PLENTY of places. There will be overlap in the guest lists, and Fiance is pretty sure we’ll be invited to hers.
Post # 13
I’m sorry but I would freak out too, that just sucks 🙁
Post # 14
Without adout your wedding will be unique to you. Its not a competition. There is enough love in the world to go around, its just happenstance. Its okay to feel that way for this short time, but move on from it quickly. Happy planning.
Post # 15
I wouldn’t worry about it. Just focus on your day with your Fiance and be happy:)