Post # 1
My husband and I eloped a year ago. In a few months we are getting married religiously, so we are having a small reception for those who are very close to us.
My inlaws are treating this as our “real” wedding (since the civil marriage didn’t really count by their religious standards). They even want me to send out “announcements” to all their friends.
I am trying to be respectful of them, but I also don’t want to look bad since everyone knows that we are already married. I’m not trying to have a “do-over” wedding.
Are there any suggestions for what I can do/should do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@mnemo: If you’re mil wants to send announcements let her do it.
Post # 4
@mnemo: Honestly, if they want to send annoucnements to their religious friends, then THEY can. I would tell them if they want to do things like that, they can. It’s coming from them, not you.
Post # 6
Thank you thank you. It just kind of left a bad taste in my mouth when she said that, like do your friends not know that we’re married?
What about for the reception? We aren’t having any bridesmaids or groomsmen, doing a garter toss/flower toss, but stepmil has insisted on my sisters and her daughter wearing matching dresses (which is fine, that’s fine by me).
My husband wants me to just shove over and have another wedding. Is that super tacky or am I just being too worried about what everyone will think?
Post # 7
@mnemo: This is a vow renewal, plain and simple. Just treat it as such and you’ll be fine.
Post # 8
@mnemo: I don’t think it makes it a do over wedding. In fact I think you should do whatever you want this time around that you didnt get to do the first time (only if you want to do it of course) ! 🙂