Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2015 - Barn Restaurant
I am going to try on dresses for the very first time this upcoming weekend and I am so nervous. I have a fear that everything I have been looking at will look horrible and I won’t be able to find anything. Or that I will get too excited and pick the “wrong” dress. Has anyone felt the same way? and how did it turn out, did you find your dress? feel overwhelmed? regrets? advice? ahhh I excited and anxious but a little scared! haha
Post # 3
@Boston_MrsS_to_be: I was nervous and overwhelmed too! Before going on my first dress shopping trip I made a plan. I decided I would try many styles, colors, and materials, take photos of me in the dress, and come home and think about them for a few days.
Sticking to that plan for each dress shopping trip really helped me get over the “oooh aaaah” stage of excitement and I knew I wouldn’t make a rushed choice in ordering a dress.
That said, I *did* fall in love with one dress, and ended up ordering it a month after first seeing it. I fell in love, waited, tried it again, still loved it, and ordered it!! 🙂
Enjoy your dress shopping!! 🙂
Post # 4
@Boston_MrsS_to_be: Oh my I was SO nervous the first time trying on dresses! I was nervous what I liked wouldn’t look good on me (it didn’t). I was nervous about being damn near naked in front of a stranger (it wasn’t as bad as I thought). I was reeeeaaalllllyyyyyy nervous I wouldn’t find anything I liked; I was nervous I wouldn’t get “that feeling” when I found the dress. I went shopping two different times and ended up picking the third dress I tried on the first time I went shopping. I chose it bc it’s the only dress that made me think ‘hmm I bet my fiancé will think I look really pretty in this. Funny story: I never got the feeling until AFTER I ordered the dress and was hunting for pics of it online. I came across a pic of it in the color I ordered. When I saw it I literally gasped and started crying.
My my advice to you: bring people that will be supportive of you, eat before you go, bring some water (getting in and out of dresses is exhausting), bring some extra deodorant (I started sweating really bad bc I was nervous. Eww), and HAVE FUN!!!!!
Post # 5
I was surprisingly nervous! It’s a weird feeling because it’s “just” clothes shopping but there are so many expectations placed on the experience and the dress. I think the tips above about eating and bringing water and bringing the right people are great.
Personally, I went shopping the first time with my mom and MOL and I had pretty low expectations because I knew that they wouldn’t be able to know what I really wanted and would accidently think more about what they wanted me to wear. The second time I went with my two best friends and they were awesome – when I put on THE dress, they were like “that is so YOU”. It was really helpful
Just remeber, you don’t have to find a dress in one day! And keep in mind how you normally make decisions – I am a pretty decicive person so I was comfortable during the second time when I found the dress, I ordered it that day. But if you normally have to mull things over, don’t put pressure on yourself to have an “aha” moment and fall in love on the spot.
Enjoy! Don’t worry, EVERYONE finds a dress!
Post # 6
@Boston_MrsS_to_be: I wasnt so much nervous as I was excited until I tried the dresses on and got nervous that I wouldnt be able to pick just one! As the other ladies above have mentioned, I would definately take some time before purchasing a dress. Once I found the one I loved, I went home, thought about it for a few weeks and went back to try it on again just to be sure, and that was it! The hardest part was being done trying on dresses because it was so much fun. My thing was I had to try not to get down at the fact that not all of them looked beautiful on. Some just didnt suit my body or work with my height, and they were such beautiful dresses so the fact they just didnt look right on me kind of got me down. But keep searching and you will find the one for you. Tips for the day – wear boy brief shorts (not a thong like I made the mistake of, lol) because the woman helping you will see all, a good strapless bra, and camera. Good Luck and Have Fun!
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2015 - Barn Restaurant
Oh my gosh thank you all so much! all of this advice is SUPER helpful! I will definitely make sure I eat before. I was going to try to bring snacks for the people I’m bringing too.
I tend to be a little on the indecisive side so I am thinking its probably best to try them on, go home and take it all in first before committing.
Thank you all again, I feel much better now!
Post # 8
I had made an appointment for my mom, my BM’s and my FSIL to all go shopping. A few days before, I FREAKED and dragged my mom to a salon, just us, and tried on dresses. I was so afraid nothing would look good or that I’d hate everything. So we went in with the plan of just trying on styles and shapes. What looks good? What doesn’t? It was SOOO HELPFUL!!! It was calm because it was just my mom and I. There was no pressure to buy and the consultant totally knew and respected that this was just a “fact finding” mission. When I then went to the “big” appointment with everyone, I was so much calmer and could really enjoy the experience.
Post # 9
@Boston_MrsS_to_be: I did what a PP mentioned and went to an appointment strictly to try on every style possible so I had a better idea what I’d want when I went to purchase. However, I almost passed out from anxiety at that first appointment and had a hard time breathing due to almost having a panic attack. I’m SO SO SO glad I did that and got it out of the way before actually going shopping!
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2015 - Barn Restaurant
@ebarnes0: Oh my! maybe I should think about possibly going first to check out the styles alone….do not want to have a panic attack…that is seriously no fun
Post # 11
@Boston_MrsS_to_be: Gah I am so sorry, I didn’t mean to scare you! I was the one dragging their feet in our relationship, my FI had to push me to get engaged haha. I’m pretty sure I will never actually be ready to get married, and it just brought it all so home for me and everything hit me at once. I was like “no no no no no I can’t be trying on wedding dresses!” haha! It’s just me.
However, it couldn’t hurt to go to David’s Bridal or something and try on a few things on your own to get an idea of styles!
Post # 12
@Boston_MrsS_to_be: I was so nervous going wedding dress shopping. I’m pretty self conscious so I was not looking forward to changing in front of my consultant. I thought I wouldnt fit into any of the samples and every dress would look awful on me. I was totally wrong. I fit into almost every sample I tried on. I never thought I would fit into a fit/flare or mermaid style and it looked amazing on me! I looked awful in natural waist dresses and looked great in drop waist. I tried on 10 dresses total and the 9th one I tried on was the one! I was so shocked because I am usually very indecisive. I did have dress regret right after I ordered it and up until it came in and I put on my dress for the first time. I then knew this was the dress for me. My bridal consultant made me feel comfortable, was nice, and listened to what I did and didn’t like in a dress. I had so much fun!
I would suggest trying on different silhouettes. You never know what will and won’t look good on you. Make sure you tell your consultant your budget. You never want to fall in love with a dress that is way over your budget. Also tell your consultant what you really like and hate in a dress. If you have a strapless bra I would bring that with you. Just relax and have fun. Good Luck!
Post # 13
Nervous wouldn’t be the right word. More like near panic inducing anxiety. I can’t explain why I was so anxious – everything about the wedding pushed me to the edge for awhile. I ended up relaxing after maybe 30 minutes. I still felt awkward and uncertain, but I was able to see myself in a couple dresses. That definitely boosted my confidence. I ended up tied between two dresses and picked one the next morning. Like PPs, I’m usually incredibly indecisive but the dress just felt very natural.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Felt the same! I started out with some dresses that weren’t flattering on me so I didn’t bother coming out of the dressing room. I felt so bad at first! But then I tried on dresses that looked good on me. & felt better! We ended up eloping so I got a more casual dress and I still got dress regret lol.