Post # 1
I was chatting to a friend of mine who knows she is about to be engaged. She told me all about the ring they picked and how her SO has “hidden” it so she can’t find it.
She laughed and told me that while he is gone out of the house she snooped around the house and found it and kept trying it on.
I didn’t know weither to find that amusing or just desperate.
Recently my SO bought me a ring for my birthday. We went shopping together, and both picked it and I in fact let him take it home with him to give to me. When he felt like it. I didn’t dwell on the ring as I know it’s not an engagement ring but a ring to complete my jewellery set.
Maybe it’s different when you know it’s actually really there? Your thoughts? Would you try on THE ring while SO is out of the house after he made a huge attempt to hide it?
Post # 3
I’ll be the first to admit, I was guilty of trying it on, even while he was home! I was sneaky about it and was almost busted, haha.
Post # 4
@SmileyKitty: why is it desperate? She’s excited! I snuck my ring out of DHs bag and was wearing it around while he was in the shower just hours before he proposed. He found it funny when he caught me!
Post # 5
I probably would, considering I picked mine out too. I can see if I just found the box, then no. But I knew exactly what I was getting.
Post # 6
My DH went to CRAZY lengths (locking it in our safe and taking the key with him every day) to make sure I didn’t try it on before our wedding (I didn’t know about my e-ring before he proposed, but I had my wedding band for 6 months before we got married)
Post # 7
I’m old fashioned and don’t agree with such practices. If one partner asks the other to go e-ring shopping, isn’t that the proposal right there? Seriously, you’re not gonna say yes to ring shopping and no to the proposal, or vice versa. Once again, I’m old fashioned. If other couples want to do it this way that’s fine.
Post # 8
My best friend didn’t know her SO bought a ring…but ended up discovering it while she was cleaning up their office desk. She wasn’t too surprised…she knew an engagement was coming. But she opened it and wore it around the house for weeks while he wasn’t at home. When he didn’t immediately propose, she got really upset and started giving him tons of crap about it. When he finally did ask, she was aggravated and so was he. It wasn’t ideal.
I can understand how anyone would be super excited to find the ring and even wear it, but it definitely look some of the excitement out of her actual engagement.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t. FI and I live separately and I first saw the ring when he proposed. I gave some guidance, but ultimately I’m happy I was surprised.
Post # 10
I think she’s just kinda ruining the proposal moment for herself (and for him, potentially) so I didn’t peek (and it was very important to me that I didn’t…FI didn’t make that so easy for me because his first “hiding” effort was leaving it in its box on the middle of his desk in our home office…but I didn’t! I just told him when he got home that he REALLY had to move it!) But if other people peek then whatever… the person is just mainly hurting themselves.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t!!! I think its tacky and slightly disrespectful to be honest. You only get to wear the ring AFTER you get engaged! If its hidden, let it stay hidden until the proposal time. Its like cheating on the proposal!!
DH and I found my ring together, but it went home with him and he wouldn’t let me try it on/or see it again until after he proposed to me. This was VERY important to him. He wanted the next time I saw it to be extra special and for us to have that moment.
Post # 12
I think it is kind of rude. The ring isn’t her property until he gives it to her. So I guess it is ok for kids to unwrap their xmas presents which are under the tree and play with them as long as they wrap them back up before their parents get home?
Post # 13
@SmileyKitty: I knew where he was keeping the ring and I knew exactly what it looked like (he wanted my full opinion on the ring, so I helped with the shopping). Out of respect for him, I did not try it on. I didn’t even peek at it once without him giving me the OK first. I think it’s kind of disrespectful to do that since it isn’t actually her’s yet.
Post # 14
@SmileyKitty: My ring is an ‘upgrade’: it’s a replica of my original one. I was very involved in the process, and I went with my OH to collect it. We then kept it at my house as OH it was covered on our insurance policy, and wasn’t on OH’s (meaning he’d have had to pay $160 for single-item insurance).
I will admit to trying it on quite a few times lol. I felt a bit bad, but I only tried it for a few minutes at a time, plus it was pretty much identical to my original, and we were already engaged. I don’t think I’d have tried it on if we weren’t yet officially engaged, I think it would have detracted from the proposal for me personally.
Post # 15
I did it! When you know about its hard not to.
Post # 16
I suffer from a snoopy, nosey childhood, so I would have a lot of difficulty in knowing it was in the house and not looking for it. If I DID find it, I doubt I would put it on and flounce so much as I would huddle over it and tell it that it’s my precious.