Post # 1
So. I am having a very low-budget wedding that FI and I are paying for ourselves. I have a MOH and 1 BM. I chose to pay for their dresses for them. My MOH and I went shopping and picked them out, since my BM lives 8 hrs away and couldnt come. MOH tried on several dresses and then once we settled on the right ones, she picked a small size. It was tight, but shes been dieting and assured me that she’d fit into it by the wedding (which was 3 1/2 months away when we bought them). To be honest, I was more worried about my BMs dress fitting her, as she wasn’t there to try it on. Fortunately, I shipped it to her and she said it fits great. Well, 3 weeks ago, MOH tells me that her dress is actually too small and we need to exchange it for the next size up. Okay, so I asked her to get it to me ASAP, since I have the receipt, and I’ll take care of it. Well, this never happened, so I asked her if I could come get it from her house. I’ve tried 3 times, but she’s out of town and her roommate won’t answer the door. I just found out today that it no longer matters because that dress is discontinued. I told her that, and her response was “Crap. I guess we have to get new ones.” Um. What’s that now? I cant afford to buy you both new dresses! FI said make her pay for it this time, which would be fine, except what about BM? I cant even afford to buy her another one, and it’s totally unfair to ask her to buy it when shes using every penny she has to just come to the wedding! I HATE to be like this, but part of me wants to tell MOH “sorry, looks like you’ll be eating celery for the next 6 weeks.” Like I said, hate being this way, but she tried that dress on and knew it was too tight. I asked if she was sure about the size and she said “yeah, it’ll motivate me with my diet even more!” It’s not like she can’t get it on or off, it’s just…. tight. Ugh. Idk what to do… I really feel like this is her fault, so why should I have to shell out money I don’t have and stress about finding new dresses 6 weeks before the wedding, when I already have enough to do right now! Thanks for reading my vent!
Post # 3
that sucks! has she brought it to a tailor? not sure how small it is, but they can usually let things out a few inches.
i would say make MOH pay for both new dresses but i see that ending badly. what if MOH just gets another dress in the same color/fabric. it will make her stand apart…
Post # 4
Maybe there is some kind of creative alterations that can be done?
Post # 5
Oh no! Wish I could give you a big hug. Definitely not being a bridezilla. I would respond the same way. Get it off or get out. As harsh as that is, she should have taken everything more seriously. That’s very nice of you to buy the dresses in the first place, but if she thinks that you can pull another one out of your butt, she must be crazy! I’m sure you can try to find it on eBay or somewhere! Give her the option to lose the weight or hunt for a bigger size.
Post # 6
Yeah, I think I would have her buy herself a new dress, and it just won’t exactly match the other dress. It’ll still look nice! But you shouldn’t have to pay for that.
Post # 7
She needs to take it to a tailor to see what they can do to make it fit better. You don’t need to buy them new dresses – she might need to buy herself a new dress (same color, diff style, etc) but at this point you’ve done what you said you would and that’s all you can do.
Post # 8
That sucks! Can MOH just pay for alterations?
Post # 9
I agree in taking it to a tailor and having her pay for the alterations. Let her know that your wallet is closed and she needs to figure something out.
Post # 10
a) make her eat celery
b) she goes to a tailor and they fix it
c) she pays for her and your BM to get new dresses since this is 100% her fault
d) punch her in the face (just kidding!)
Post # 11
I think that you could ask her to pay for a new dress that compliments the original dress. It’s not fair for you to have to pay for a new dress for her, but it is also not fair for her to have to pay for another dress for your bridesmaid. If she can get something that coordinates I think that would be a good compromise. Try to have a little compassion- dieting is not easy but she shouldn’t be punished.
Post # 12
@silverbrrlrcr: Ok this is definitely not Bridezilla attitude. She is really at fault here, it seems she took it lightly because she didn’t pay the dress herself. Maybe she can take it to a seamstress and try taking a few inches out, worst case, she’d have to purchase another one, different styles might not be a big deal since she’s the MOH and your other friend is the BM. Good luck.
Post # 13
Wow, I’m sorry to hear what you are going through. My good friend’s bridal shop messed up the sizes of our dresses and long fiasco, we basically had to make do with what we had, all size 2 bridesmaids dresses who can fit those? Oh and her wedding was on national television for a Wedding Story, no pressure. We literally all fasted for two weeks prior to her wedding and squeezed into two pairs of Spanx each. It was not a healthy way to do this but my point is sometimes a girl’s gotta do what she’s gotta do. Celery it is. Best of luck!
Post # 15
@hotpinkbride: +1. Seems like the best option to me.
Post # 16
@hotpinkbride: I hope I wasn’t coming off as blowing off her diet. I myself am trying to lose weight, which just got alot harder since I’m in a full arm cast and can’t really work out. (comes off 2 weeks before wedding, whew!). I’m more just frustrated with her cavalier attitude about the situation, including her not getting the dress back to me in a timely manner. But for sure I recognize that it’s hard, and I’m trying to be compassionate. 🙂