- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
So 1 of my BMs is 5 months pregnant with her 1st baby. Yay!!! I’m absolutely thrilled for her and have put off wedding planning to plan her baby shower, which I am now completely consumed with…lol
The problem is she is due late April and our DR destination wedding is mid June. When she first told us, I completely expected, and understood, that she would drop out. I mean who is going to leave their first born 6-8 week old to fly out of the country for 5 days, right? Only, she says she is still coming, she made a commitment, etc…. I have gently tried to explain that I understand, who knew at time she accepted she would get pregnant and that in the sutuation I myself wouldnt go. But she still insists that she is coming and leaving the baby with her stepmother (who she is just establishing a relationship with in the past few months).
At this point she can still get 75% (maybe more) of the money she put out on the resort back and bc she used frequent flier miles to cover airfare she can have that credited too. I honestly feel like as she gets further along she will change her mind about being comfortable leaving baby or will not be able to relax and enjoy herself at wedding and by that time it will be too late to recoup any money.
Honestly Bees, do I try to bring it up again or just let it go after the two attempts and let it be what it will be? I’m sincerely not at all worried about her not being able to make it (as in this is not a rant about how my day is going to be ruined bc I’m down a BM) but just don’t think she’s looking at the big picture, like God forbid there are complications with her pregnancy or for the baby after birth. Also with a newborn, one can’t afford to be out $800-1000. For that alone, I might’ve dropped out… . And I can’t imagine the misery of being so far away from your precious lil one and not being able to hear her coo, smell her, just watch her breathe…. sorry I’m a bit of a baby stalker…lmbo
Anyhoo, if I do bring it up again, how else can I do it to let her know that while I strongly admire and so greatly appreciate her commitment, that she diesnt need to be there for us to feel her love without offending her or making it seem like she isnt an important factor in our day?