(Closed) Trying to avoid the let down feeling (vent)

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3423 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Meant2Bee:  *Hugs Hugs* it’s ok. It’s alright mama. Men are kinda dense. They aren’t good planners. This sounds like something my SO would do. You layed back, he  had an Idea but doesnt know how to excicute, how to get as much bang for his buck as you do. So now that he asked for your help, go help! PLAN! WOOHOO! plan something so awesome that even if your question doesn’t get popped, you still had a great time. Then put it out of your head. Vacations are supposed to be fun, not nail-bitting(heaven forbid) experiences. I hate telling people to relax, but it is the best thing you can do. Plan something awesome and go have a good time with your sweetiepie.

Post # 4
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11242 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh honey. Trust me, I’ve been there. When I graduated from uni, my FI (then boyfriend) and I went up north to celebrate and take a little vacation. We stayed at his grandparents’ house on a lake, and the sky up there is amazing. We were having a bonfire one night, and he wanted to take me out on the pier. I really, really thought that he was going to propose. It would have been perfect. He didn’t. I cried for a considerable part of the drive home, and then of course, he was upset because I was upset.

The worst part is that we always plan our own proposals, and think it’s coming at every turn. I went through the same thing. Boys don’t always understand. Try to focus on having fun and spending time with your love.

Post # 6
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1404 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You wouldn’t want to waste what could be a wonderful trip by getting upset at missed engagement opportunities. Maybe your SO is playing dumb and has a proposal plan up his sleeve that he wants to surprise you with. In any case, make the most of your time away with him… plan to do a whole heap of fun things so that even if a proposal isn’t on the cards, you’ll have had a great time anyway and hopefully won’t be as upset.

Post # 7
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1862 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sometimes I think guys want to throw us off the trail so that we are truly surprised, so they do little sweet things here and there just so you don’t know exactly when it’s coming.. I could be wrong and they could just be really dense (also quite likely)… 🙂 

I felt exactly the way you did this summer – kept expecting it all the time and was getting so very frustrated!!! I agree with the PP – just try to enjoy your time together and not stress (I know, easier said than done..) – it will happen when you least expect it!

 

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