Post # 1
Hi Bee’s –
If you read my earlier post’s I realllllllly thought my SO was planning on proposing this weekend (and he still may) but now I am having doubts.
Last night he said “well let’s plan what we want to do this weekend” and it occured to me that he didn’t have a clue what was even around the area. I had purposely only made the hotel reservations so that he could choose a few activities for us to do. There are SOOO many wonderful places in the moutains that he could take me but it kind of hurts that he hadn’t even looked. Then he asked me if I wanted to go to a bed and breakfast “one day” but not this weekend…which is not realistic because we have an expensive family trip planned next month. Now I feel myself not being excited to go anymore…actually not even wanting to go.
I forsee myself crying the entire way back home and my SO not even having a clue as to why. I have been GREAT about “shutting it up” for about 2 weeks now and i’m afriad that I may have a HUGE breakdown if it doesn’t happen.
Post # 3
@Meant2Bee: *Hugs Hugs* it’s ok. It’s alright mama. Men are kinda dense. They aren’t good planners. This sounds like something my SO would do. You layed back, he had an Idea but doesnt know how to excicute, how to get as much bang for his buck as you do. So now that he asked for your help, go help! PLAN! WOOHOO! plan something so awesome that even if your question doesn’t get popped, you still had a great time. Then put it out of your head. Vacations are supposed to be fun, not nail-bitting(heaven forbid) experiences. I hate telling people to relax, but it is the best thing you can do. Plan something awesome and go have a good time with your sweetiepie.
Post # 4
Oh honey. Trust me, I’ve been there. When I graduated from uni, my FI (then boyfriend) and I went up north to celebrate and take a little vacation. We stayed at his grandparents’ house on a lake, and the sky up there is amazing. We were having a bonfire one night, and he wanted to take me out on the pier. I really, really thought that he was going to propose. It would have been perfect. He didn’t. I cried for a considerable part of the drive home, and then of course, he was upset because I was upset.
The worst part is that we always plan our own proposals, and think it’s coming at every turn. I went through the same thing. Boys don’t always understand. Try to focus on having fun and spending time with your love.
Post # 5
The only thing my SO has done so far is book horse back riding for us to do. When I started searching for other things to do yesterday with him I felt myself getting irritated…but that’s because I was assuming he is going to propose. If this were any other trip I would have had everything planned weeks ago…because my SO is a horrible planner. I am thinking about taking him on a hike to a natural waterfall…but I think I will fall to pieces if I do all that and get let down 🙁
Post # 6
You wouldn’t want to waste what could be a wonderful trip by getting upset at missed engagement opportunities. Maybe your SO is playing dumb and has a proposal plan up his sleeve that he wants to surprise you with. In any case, make the most of your time away with him… plan to do a whole heap of fun things so that even if a proposal isn’t on the cards, you’ll have had a great time anyway and hopefully won’t be as upset.
Post # 7
Sometimes I think guys want to throw us off the trail so that we are truly surprised, so they do little sweet things here and there just so you don’t know exactly when it’s coming.. I could be wrong and they could just be really dense (also quite likely)… 🙂
I felt exactly the way you did this summer – kept expecting it all the time and was getting so very frustrated!!! I agree with the PP – just try to enjoy your time together and not stress (I know, easier said than done..) – it will happen when you least expect it!