(Closed) trying to balance everything! (long…)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
7175 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I remember totally stressing out during the year of my engagement for all things holiday.  It was like I wanted to spend it with FI and do things as I anticipated my new family – yet felt a pull to my family of origin.

The 12 year old you mention is your soon to be step-son, right? 

I think you should first figure out when you are going to celebrate Father’s Day with your dad and talk to him about what his preference is.  Then, working around that, create an awesome Father’s Day celebration pizza party with the 12-year old and your FI.

I don’t think it’s fair for your FI to tell you that Father’s Day shouldn’t be about your dad.  Can you think of why your FI is feeling that way?  Does he feel like he won’t be celebrated if you go celebrate with your dad??

Edit to add:  in that year prior to marriage, I made it a point to spend holidays with my family and mostly without FI.  I was REALLY glad I did that – because it was the very last time that I was ‘single’.  Post-marriage, DH will always be in the picture.  It was difficult to reach that decision – but I’m SO GLAD I did.

Post # 4
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Does your father live nearby? Why don’t you invite him over for pizza as you were planning to do. Then you can do something individually for his birthday.

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