(Closed) Trying to be patient…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Puppy Love: Welcome!  πŸ™‚ I think the obsessiveness is a bit normal when you’re in the waiting stage and you know it’s coming.

Post # 4
140 posts
Blushing bee

That’s such a cute note to leave you, I love little surprises like that πŸ™‚

Have you guys talked about getting engaged beyond that conversation at your sister’s wedding? After 3 years, you guys should be able to level with each other with your attitudes and expectations regarding marriage. He should certainly be able to wait until he’s ready, but it’s your life too and you deserve to know where things are heading. Not everyone agrees, but I feel like engagement should be an open process instead of some big surprise. You should be talking about it and browsing rings as a couple (where they will size your finger properly). As long as you are both on the same page and comfortable with the idea, it’s normal to talk about it.  The exact timing of the proposal can be a surprise, but the engagement shouldn’t be.

It’s wonderful to dream and be excited, but I might suggest holding off on some the wedding planning until you are sure you guys are on the same page. I mean, we all do it to some extent, but you probably dont need to be designing invites just yet! Save some of that energy and excitement for the real wedding planning and just enjoy the relationship the way it is now πŸ™‚

Also, I’m going to save you some tears and tell you not to post anything like what you just said on the knot. They dont take kindly to pre-planners.

Post # 5
23 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

What an exciting time for you, Puppy Love! Hang in there, and I echo the sentiment that it’s ok to start that conversation in a real way. Especially if you’re as much as a planner as I am ;). What a sweet little note for him to write you… Aren’t those little reminders so reassuring? 

Good luck, and welcome! 

Post # 6
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I can totally identify! I had thought about this kind of stuff here and there before, but as soon as SO nonchalantly told me to send him links to rings I liked, *BAM!* – it was full-on eager anticipation from there.

That post-it surprise is absolutely fantastic – so sweet.

I’ve definitely grown pretty impatient and frustrated, but I have to remind myself that if I truly want him to take the reins on this thing, I’ve got to let him. (i.e. I need to stop stressing and let go of the eagerness in my mind. I can still think about it, but have to take a more mellow approach.)

Post # 7
801 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

that’s exacly my case: 

– 3 years together, never really game much thoughts about a timeline, knew for quite some time I’d marry this man and as you said BAM! I started thinking about it constantly (after he dropped some hints…)! 

and then (I swear I’m not making this up) he’s been leaving all kinds of little notes like that…

so weird! I guess we are just excted!

Post # 8
972 posts
Busy bee

That note is so sweet!

I can relate. I was comfortable waiting another year or two until the proposal, but then when he started talking abuot ordering the stone soon I just COULD NOT wait anymore! And now its getting more and more real, I’m getting more impatient.

Heres hoping it happens soon for all of us!

Post # 10
140 posts
Blushing bee

@Puppy Love:

I know! I say I’m just going to spend a couple of minutes looking at stuff, but the internet always sucks me in πŸ™‚

I think you guys should go try on rings together, just for kicks. Sometimes there’s a big difference between what looks good online and what looks good on your hand. It’s a really fun experience, and worth doing before you let him choose on his own!

Post # 11
1903 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Welcome – and they say patience is a vitue.. well I’m not virtuous! πŸ™‚

Post # 12
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Hello Ladies, 

I have been waiting for almost 4 years now and I cant take it.  I am having so much anxiety this past week.  I think that tonight might be the night he proposes.  He has been acting a bit secretative, he has been curious about my ring size and has planned a date tonight at our special place.  This is a restaurant we only go to on special occassions.  So for him to plan a date out of no where is not like him. I also saw him have searched engagement rings on his ipod,  I am excited but am more nervous to think that toight is only really just a date and he has no plans to propose. I am making myself nuts.  Did anyone else experience these feelings? 


Thanks you


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