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Okay, I’m completely new to this. Not going to lie, feels a little strange to share such intimate thoughts I haven’t even shared with the people closest to me but I guess that’s what we’re all here for! 🙂 I’ve found myself recently becoming increasingly more impatient as time goes by. The Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together for over 3 years now. I’ve known he was the one for quite some time now but have never really been too concerned with any sort of timeline for a proposal, marriage, etc. I guess it all happened at his sister’s wedding when he said “Sooner or later that’ll be us” to which I replied “Hopefully sooner rather than later!” Followed up by his “eh, maybe later!” (cue devilish smile) and then he proceeds to ask my ring size (which I had NO response for as I’ve never known!). Ever since, I’ve been OBSESSED! I’ve scoured countless websites for the perfect dress (not that I haven’t before but it’s hit an all-time high!). I’ve looked at decor, invitations, even going so far as to design the perfect ones! I’ve always been a very creative and, let’s call it, “detail-oriented” (read: anal-retentive!) person so of course I have a MILLION ideas for everything. I can’t stop thinking about how much fun it will be to get started on the real planning that I can actually do in front of him! Well that’s enough of this long rant of a post, it’s just nice to talk about the things I can’t around here.
On a happier, less obsessive-compulsive, side-note I woke up to a wonderful surprise a few days ago. The tiniest little post-it note stuck to the top of my laptop that read “Everyday I realize I am the luckiest man alive. I love you soooo much!”. Reminds that all of this waiting and anticipating will be worth it and will make that special day that much more special. 🙂
Post # 3
@Puppy Love: Welcome! 🙂 I think the obsessiveness is a bit normal when you’re in the waiting stage and you know it’s coming.
Post # 4
That’s such a cute note to leave you, I love little surprises like that 🙂
Have you guys talked about getting engaged beyond that conversation at your sister’s wedding? After 3 years, you guys should be able to level with each other with your attitudes and expectations regarding marriage. He should certainly be able to wait until he’s ready, but it’s your life too and you deserve to know where things are heading. Not everyone agrees, but I feel like engagement should be an open process instead of some big surprise. You should be talking about it and browsing rings as a couple (where they will size your finger properly). As long as you are both on the same page and comfortable with the idea, it’s normal to talk about it. The exact timing of the proposal can be a surprise, but the engagement shouldn’t be.
It’s wonderful to dream and be excited, but I might suggest holding off on some the wedding planning until you are sure you guys are on the same page. I mean, we all do it to some extent, but you probably dont need to be designing invites just yet! Save some of that energy and excitement for the real wedding planning and just enjoy the relationship the way it is now 🙂
Also, I’m going to save you some tears and tell you not to post anything like what you just said on the knot. They dont take kindly to pre-planners.
Post # 5
What an exciting time for you, Puppy Love! Hang in there, and I echo the sentiment that it’s ok to start that conversation in a real way. Especially if you’re as much as a planner as I am ;). What a sweet little note for him to write you… Aren’t those little reminders so reassuring?
Good luck, and welcome!
Post # 6
I can totally identify! I had thought about this kind of stuff here and there before, but as soon as SO nonchalantly told me to send him links to rings I liked, *BAM!* – it was full-on eager anticipation from there.
That post-it surprise is absolutely fantastic – so sweet.
I’ve definitely grown pretty impatient and frustrated, but I have to remind myself that if I truly want him to take the reins on this thing, I’ve got to let him. (i.e. I need to stop stressing and let go of the eagerness in my mind. I can still think about it, but have to take a more mellow approach.)
Post # 7
that’s exacly my case:
– 3 years together, never really game much thoughts about a timeline, knew for quite some time I’d marry this man and as you said BAM! I started thinking about it constantly (after he dropped some hints…)!
and then (I swear I’m not making this up) he’s been leaving all kinds of little notes like that…
so weird! I guess we are just excted!
Post # 8
That note is so sweet!
I can relate. I was comfortable waiting another year or two until the proposal, but then when he started talking abuot ordering the stone soon I just COULD NOT wait anymore! And now its getting more and more real, I’m getting more impatient.
Heres hoping it happens soon for all of us!
Post # 9
@KittenB: We have definitely had plenty of talks about marriage and the future. We are both on the same page that it’s the next step. We’ve looked at rings online and I’ve dropped hints as to my style of ring but never anything specific as I want that to be his to pick out.
Definitely an exciting time but I agree I need to calm down and enjoy the relationship and the stage we’re at now. (so hard to do when my job has me in front of the computer 24-7 and there are so many fun ideas 🙂
Post # 10
I know! I say I’m just going to spend a couple of minutes looking at stuff, but the internet always sucks me in 🙂
I think you guys should go try on rings together, just for kicks. Sometimes there’s a big difference between what looks good online and what looks good on your hand. It’s a really fun experience, and worth doing before you let him choose on his own!
Post # 11
Welcome – and they say patience is a vitue.. well I’m not virtuous! 🙂
Post # 12
I have been waiting for almost 4 years now and I cant take it. I am having so much anxiety this past week. I think that tonight might be the night he proposes. He has been acting a bit secretative, he has been curious about my ring size and has planned a date tonight at our special place. This is a restaurant we only go to on special occassions. So for him to plan a date out of no where is not like him. I also saw him have searched engagement rings on his ipod, I am excited but am more nervous to think that toight is only really just a date and he has no plans to propose. I am making myself nuts. Did anyone else experience these feelings?