Post # 1
So, I have a friend that is driving me CRAZY lately. Ordinarily she is someone that I enjoy being around, and we share a lot of common traits, but right now I am just trying to bite my tongue!
She is on this new kick of talking about how much her DH makes….I have no idea why she thinks I would care? Trust me, IRL I am not a person who comes across as impressed by money. I drive a modest car, live in a modest house, not into clothes, and so on and so forth. What’s more (not that it matters, because I don’t care about other people’s money one way or the other) I am fairly sure she’s not being truthful about it. She talks about him making ridiculous amounts…like, to the point of where unless he was the owner of his own (large, successful) business or something like that, there is just NO WAY. (But again, even if he made a billion dollars a year, it’s NONE of my business and I wouldn’t care.)
I try changing the subject, I try to ignore, but she finds a way to sneak it in. I am mostly annoyed/hurt that she apparently thinks I’m shallow enough to care/be impressed. I can’t just avoid her because we are in the same social circle and unless I want to cut off an entire group of people, it’s just not happening.
Ugh…just needed to vent!
Post # 3
@tnbellebee: lol, I knew a person like this. I just started asking them to buy me stuff and crying poor. She stopped talking about it shortly after I got her to buy me lunch lol.
Post # 5
@tnbellebee: I would probably be frank with her and say that I am glad she’s happy about her husband’s success, but it’s none of my business and I feel uncomfortable hearing details of someone else’s finances. With people like this you just need to nip it in the bud, I think. No one likes a bragger.
Post # 6
In my experience… people who talk about money so much like the way you are explaining, dont actually have that kind of money. Credit Cards arent money either, they are debt lol Lots of girls especially, think because their boyfriend uses them all the time means they have money. My FI and I dont own a credit card, which many people bug us for but meh lol
If it was me in your situation, it wouldnt take me long before I would blurt something out in a social situation about how I dont care lol like ”we get it, your boyfriend has ”money”, I really dont care” LOL And to be honest, I have done it while out with a group of people having drinks. Maybe I come across as a bitch but I hate sugar coating shit and much rather people hear the truth the way it needs to be heard lol
Post # 7
people with money don’t talk about it.
I’d tell her that while you’re happy about her husbands sucesses, it makes you very uncomfortable when she discusses it and you’d prefer she would not talk about it tot you anymore.
Post # 8
^ I agree 100% with what Mrs.WBS said. Tell your friend to take it down a level because nobody likes a bragger.
Post # 9
@tnbellebee: Tell her you heard that money is like sex: the more you have of it, the less you need to talk about it; and vice versa – the more you talk about it, the less you probably have.
Post # 10
Thanks for the advice and commiseration! I am going to bring it up in a lighthearted way and see if that stops it.
@MissBling: You are exactly right! It is so hard to take because she alternates between “My husband makes blah blah blah a year” and “oh, I’m not going to be able to go out because I don’t have the money.” Pick a story and stick to it LOL!
Post # 11
@housebee: OMG, that is hilarious. It reminds me of how my dad used to get rid of telemarketers, and the technique embarrassed my mom so much (but it worked). As soon as the telemarketer would start their schpiel, he would interrupt them and say, “I’m on welfare and can’t afford to buy what you’re selling. But, if you have anything you’re giving away for free, I’ll take it.” Worked like a charm. They would immediately hang up and not call back.
Post # 12
I have a friend like this except in her
case she is supposedly making a lot of
money. One convo is about how she makes soooo much more than
everyone she knows and the next convo is that she cant afford
to pay down her debt or move to a nicer area. It makes no sense.