Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - Lake Taghkanic State Park
My FH and I found these rings that we loved online from a jeweler in Ireland (we were looking at them years before we were engaged). But now that the wedding is actually coming up I wanted to try on some rings on first to get an idea of what styles I liked before we bought something online.
We went to Zales this weekend and he tried on a few different styles of bands and got an idea of sizing and things like that, and he decided that he definitely still wanted to go with the claddagh band.
I on the other hand tried on some plain bands similar to the shape/size of the claddagh band and liked them on their own but didn’t like the look of it with my engagement ring. I should have taken pictures while I was there but I didn’t think of it at the time…
But anyway… When I wore the traditional-style band with my engagement ring they just didn’t sit right together and there was a large gap between the stone and the band. So I tried on some curved bands as well and found the one below… Which fit perfectly and looked really pretty with my engagement ring.
So now I’m completely torn. I really love them both. I just have to decide if I want to get the ring in the set that matched my FH’s ring and just swap the e-ring for the band, or if I want to get the contour ring and still wear my e-ring after the ceremony.
I feel like a lot of people end up wearing both rings, some people even have them fused and things like that. Did anyone else not wear their engagement ring after the wedding? I’m really curious. I’d like to know why/why not.
Also which band do you like better?
Post # 3
Love the claddagh band! A little gap is nothing to worry about.
I plan to wear my engagement ring along with my wedding band most of the time, but sometimes, just my wedding band. I am planning to get a solid gold band because it is timeless and traditional, just like the claddagh is.
The reason I will not always wear my engagement ring is mostly that it is very…scintillating. Sometimes I want a more understated look, that’s just what I feel like. And sometimes, I won’t feel it’s appropriate to wear a nice diamond (even though it’s not huge or anything) in a certain situation, particularly when interacting with people in a much lower income bracket than myself, but also, it doesn’t exude professional seriousness, whereas the wedding band fits right in with my “no nonsense” professional look for certain occasions like a big presentation.
Another factor is that the engagement ring is more delicate, intricate, and 3D. It hasn’t come up very much so far, but I expect that when I have young children, it will be more likely to catch on things, get dirty, get banged up, or even scratch my own child. And sometimes I go camping. And I do outdoor sports. Now we have the issue of getting banged up, falling off, knocking the diamond out, a mismatch with the outdoorsy setting, plus, lots of CRUD all over the intricate details of my engagement ring. No thanks!
The simple wedding band will be perfect for times when the last thing I want to be worried about is a pokey diamond ring sticking out from my hand.
Post # 4
i love your band! wear both! I can’t imagine not wearing my ering…I love it!
Post # 5
I wear both my rings & absolutely love that style. I would go with the contour band if I were you but if the claddagh ring is really important to you, you could always move the e-ring to your right hand 🙂 It would be a shame for such a gorgeous piece to not be worn every day!
Post # 6
@MonPetite: I always wear both wedding and e-ring. If I were you, I’d wear the claddagh as a RHR and the countour with e-ring.
Post # 7
Perhaps a goldsmith (or silversmith?) can contour the claddagh band for you – I don’t know if that is possible without heating the ring to the point that the design is ruined, or if it would stretch, or if a contour can just be cut out, or what.
Post # 8
@MonPetite: any possibility you can get both? Maybe solder the pretty curved band to you ering and wear the matching plain one alone? I like both!! I’m no help, haha.
Post # 9
Honestly, I LOVE BOTH looks.
So I VOTED for OTHER
I have 2 WBands, one sparkly and one plain.
I mix and match however the mood strikes me… 1, 2, 3, rings at a time.
My ERing is worn most of the time, but it fits on the ring finger of BOTH my left and right hands.
Sometimes I wear it on my Wedding Ring Finger alone, or with one of the WBands, sometimes with Both, and sometimes it gets move to my RHand Ring Finger, and I fill up my Wedding Finger with one or both of my WBands.
As I said lots of choices.
Here is some pics…
PHOTO – ERing & Sparkly
PHOTO – 2 WBands
Hope this helps,
Post # 10
I think most people wear both their engagement and wedding rings after they are married. I prefer the curved band, but you would probably want to have it soldered to your ering or it will spin and not sit right a lot of the time. You could always get the claddagh ring as a RHR or just a band for when you can’t/don’t want to wear your full set.
Post # 11
@MonPetite: I hate gaps. I think it looks like it doesn’t fit and it looks “off.” I think sets look the best when they actually look like sets. I intend to wear my engagement ring after we are married – the two diamond eternity bands that FI bought me will be soldered to either side of my engagemet ring. I love the look, and I want to wear them all 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2013 - Lake Taghkanic State Park
@joya_aspera: I too love to camp and am thinking about kids, I’ve been wearing it for a year and a half already and I haven’t had too many problems with my engagement ring getting in the way so far though, but then again I’m the kind of girl that always wears dresses whether I’m out at a party or in the woods climbing a tree. But I definitely get that there are times when the simpler band might be more appropriate.
@wrkbrk: @This Time Round: I wish I could afford to get both! I think it would be nice to have the options, I might look into it. I’m such an indecisive person that I kind of feel kind of guilty, like this is a cop out so I don’t have to make the decision. I think this would be my favorite option if I could pull it off! XD
@Duncan: I’m not sure… I think you’re right that it would probably mess up the design if I had the claddagh altered to fit the engagement ring.
@ceebree: @MrsRugbee: I’m not really sure about how I feel about wearing either of them on my right hand, but I also didn’t really think about it until now, is that something people do?
@Westwood: @Birdi: I think the only reason I wouldn’t wear the claddagh band wih the e-ring, aside from the look being a little off, is that when I tried the similar band with the e-ring in the store they just weren’t comfortable together. The gap makes them take up a lot more space and they slide around more. idk, they just didn’t feel like they went together.
Post # 13
@MonPetite: Yes! It’s not common, but you can wear one of your rings on your right hand.
Post # 14
If you can afford it, I suggest getting both. Only because you seem to have a sentimental attachment to the idea of having the matching claddagh rings. Get yours in a narrower width and wear all three rings. The contour ring you chose would probably sit nicely between both rings.
Or, you could wear the claddagh as a right-hand ring. It’s very popular to do so.
I wear my e-ring and wedding ring together all the time, but my e-ring sits in my wedding band, so they can’t be worn separately–not that I’d want to anyway.
BTW, your ring is beautiful!
Post # 15
I love the claddagh bands! We’re looking at similar styles, but they don’t go with my e-ring at all. I’m thinking we might get them for our anniversary 😉
Post # 16
I love the clad rings, though I understand why you would like both of your rings to look good together. Buy the curved band if you would like to wear both rings.
This is my ring set. I wear them together because it looks gorgeous and my husband has asked that I wear both rings.