Post # 1
Hey there bees,
I come here today in an effort to feel better about a career switch. I am currently a teacher, but have been offered a job at the company where my SO works – a company that is projecting several billions of dollars of growth over the next five years, and that has a proven track record of growth. Everyone he and I have spoken to within the company are encouraging this move – I will take a temporary pay cut, but I have been told to expect a huge bump and a better position within 6 months to a year.
I am currently driving 1 hour each way to get to school, and my new commute will be 20 minutes, with plans in a year or so for us to buy a house in the same town where we will be working, trimming that 20 minute commute in half. I love teaching…it has always been a part of me and has been a common thread that traces through the positions that I’ve held in the past – but, I feel that all of the practical aspects of this switch (money saved on commute and car repairs, room for promotion, salary potential, being closer to family, having more time with SO) make it impossible to refuse. I have been talking to people at the local community college, and am hoping that I can become an adjunct faculty member, teaching a class or two per semester while I work full-time at my other position.
Even with all of these positive aspects, my heart is breaking. I’ve been anxious all week and am trying to find the words to tell my department chair and my principal. I currently work at the school that I graduated from, which means that I have known the people that I work with for nearly half of my life. I feel that I am losing an important piece of my support network (I don’t have any friends really where we live) and I fear that I am somehow making a mistake, even though I love my SO more than anything. My mentor and I have been talking about this possibility for a looooong time, and while she is being so encouraging and supportive, she also has told me that she harbors some hope that I’ll come back in the fall.
Unfortunately, moving closer to my job is not an hour – it would give SO and I each a 45 minute commute at best, and it would put us in a difficult position in terms of providing care for his mom, whose MS is progressing. I feel so selfish when I feel sad about leaving my current job…but I can’t imagine my life without my SO.
Are any of you former teachers? How do you feel about working in your new fields? I think there will be an adjustment period, but I’m hoping I’ll like it. Also, any advice on giving notice? Any position I’ve left in the past has been easy, as I’ve disliked the work or the company culture…not the case here.
Post # 2
I mean tot write “Unfortunately, moving closer to my job is not an option”…oy, my brain is fried today.
Post # 3
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I can’t help with much, but I can say that there can be teaching-type opportunities in other fields. I personally teach a couple of in-house trainings each month, and my field is completely unrelated to education. Maybe once you are settled at the new company you can speak with your boss about creating or teaching trainings? A lot of companies outsource those at a huge expense, so you could do something similar to what you love and save the company some money. Maybe you could offer private tutoring as well to either your former students or people in your area?
Also remember you are not marrying the new company. If it doesn’t work, you can return to teaching in a year. That’ll also give you a whole year to adjust to a new job, schedule, work environment, etc. (especially if promotion/raise don’t materialize as promised, you’ll have a good excuse)
As for resigning, I would suggest a phone call or face-to-face where you give them a head’s up, followed up with a written letter saying how much you appreciated and loved your job, have mixed feelings about leaving, etc etc.
Good luck! I left a company I’d been at for 9 years a few months ago for a different job. It was a weird transition period but ultimately really nice now that I am settled in. I’m hoping things work out for you as well.
Post # 4
I’m not a former teacher, but I am currently looking for jobs outside of the classroom and outside of the education industry. I have been at my school for 6 years, and while it has unfortunately had more “downs” than “ups,” the thought of doing something completely new does make me pretty nervous. As for giving notice, the best thing to do is to just think of it like a band-aid and get on with it right away. It’s going to hurt, but dragging things out is in no way beneficial. It sounds like you have a good relationship with your colleagues and supervisors, so if you want to return to teaching in the future, you’ll have a good place to start.
Post # 5
Some studies show that the average person graduating high school today will have up to 5 different careers in their lifetime. That’s different careers, not jobs or employers.
We all have transferable skills learned in one career that can be transferred to another.
Who knows what opportunities for teaching you will find in your new position? Go there with enthusiasm, learn new transferable skills, and find out where it take you. You always have the security of having your teaching qualifications.
For the sake of security, is it possible for you to take an unpaid leave of absence? I did that from one of my jobs, because the employers said that at least with a LOA they had a chance of me coming back. I accepted a position with a new company, a position that had just been created so there was no way of knowing if it would become firmly established in the company or be eliminated in a year or so.
Post # 6
@julies1949 – I have been here for 2 years, so I would need to work another year and gain professional status in the system before taking a LOA. I thought about this, but I feel like it is just delaying the inevitable “ripping off of the band aid”, so to speak.
I think I really just need to be at peace with this decision and move forward without second-guessing myself. I feel like I know a lot of people who have “always known” what they wanted to do – and I am a little jealous that even now, at the age of 26, I feel aimless. I *could* do a lot of things. I am making this choice SOLELY based on the importance of my relationship with SO and our long-term goals…if he was not in the picture, this wouldn’t even be an issue. I would be teaching here for the next forever with people I feel particularly close to…but then again, I would never give up our relationship for that sort of security and (perhaps) stagnance.
Post # 7
Hey just being 26 doesn’t mean you have stuff figured out, I’m 27 and I still feel clueless. I hope that you get things sorted out so you can feel better about the switch.
Post # 8
hike_katahdin87: I don’t think it’s a bad thing that you haven’t “always known” what you want to do. I also think that knowing that you COULD do a number of different jobs is a good thing.
Perspective is everything.
Post # 9
I am going to be Debbie Downer over here, sorry. You state that you would not switch jobs/careers if not for your SO. If you move and you are miserable or you end up having relationship issues, or worse, are you going to regret your decision?
I don’t think that I would ever want to work with my FI. I love him very much, but I would like to keep that separate. Are you working in a different department? I took a pay cut and left a job that I was miserable at for another job. Guess what, I hated that job, too, plus I was working more hours and making less for each hour. I could not imagine leaving a job that I love for another person except for a true emergency, a guaranteed better lifestyle, and that person was my husband and or child.
Your SO does not have to do a job that you may dislike. I am also wary of all the unknowns. Unless you sign a contract that states you are guaranteed a large pay increase in 6 months, you should not count on it. Your increase may be based on this “potential” growth. I would be happy to commute to a job I loved, but would be unhappy driving to a job that I freaking hate! Please, be sure that YOU want to do this for YOU! We as women are often so willing to make sacrifices for people who would not do the same for us. I truly hope that you make the best choice for yourself and that things work out well for you either way. Best of luck to you!
Post # 10
I don’t see why you say you have to give up your relationship by staying at your current job? Honestly this sounds like its going to cause a wedge of resentment between you two if you say you’d rather stay working at your current job rather than switching
Post # 11
No question, the quicker commute is a def plus as far as quality of life is concerned. It’s all in how you look at things: you could see this move as an opportunity for personal growth. I find that i like a challenge which is partially why i switched careers.