Post # 1
I told a guy friend that I’d ask the hive for some advice. He’s been dating his girlfriend for 4 years and wants to propose. There’s just one small hitch. She lives with her parents, and he can’t seem to find a good time to ask her father for permission. Neither parents have cell phones, and they don’t answer the house phone, they let it ring through and check the messages hours later. He’s afraid to leave a message because he doesn’t want her to hear. Also, she and her parents are homebodies. When they’re not at work, they’re all home (unless she’s out with my friend). He also has no idea where her father works or how to get ahold of him there. He only gets together with her family for Christmas and he doesn’t want to wait that long to try to get the father alone.
He really doesn’t have any kind of relationship with her father, and the Future Father-In-Law is VERY conservative, so he doesn’t feel too comfortable just “dropping by”, but he will if that’s what it comes to.
Have any bees been in a similar situation? What advice can you give my friend?
Post # 3
Why don’t YOU offer to take her out for coffee or shopping or something so he can sneak over there while she’s out?
Post # 4
@HisIrishPrincess:I would, but I have NO relationship with her. He’s a coworker and I’ve only met her a few times. I’ll have to suggest to him maybe getting one of her friends to do that.
However, he’s still really hesitant to drop by her house without calling first, and he knows that her parents never pick up the phone, they only check messages hours later.
Post # 5
It can’t be that hard to figure out where the father works. He is dating the daugher. He could bring it up in conversation and go that route.
Or write a letter and mail it.
Post # 6
He should stop by- if this is really what he wants to do, he will find a way.
Post # 7
-phone and leave a message asking the Dad to call him
-ask to speak to the Dad when he goes to the home sometime to pick up hisgirlfriend. He doesn’t have to have the whole conversation at this time, just set a time to meet
-drop by sometime when he knows the girlfriend will be out and the Dad is home.
I can’t believe this is that hard for him to figure out.
Post # 8
I think he should go over to “hang out” and while she’s in the bathroom, set up a time to meet. Or just be a man and drop by while he knows she’s gone and speak to the dad. My brother-in-law asked my parents while my sister was gone from her seat at a hockey game. If there’s a will, there’s a way.