Trying to Hit Minimum – Late Invites?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Can you just send them the 25 remaining invitations? That would be a lot better than an e-vite.

Post # 5
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Can you make new invitations? I know they may not match your original ones, but you can go to Michaels and pick up a set to run through your printer. Then I would just hand them out normally. There’s still plenty of time to invite people. 

Post # 6
Hostess
9907 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would get a kit at Michaels, use the 40% off coupon and they’re quite affordable and they have some pretty nice ones.

If you get them out quickly I think it’s okay.  I would refrain from mentioning you’re filling spaces from declines.  

Post # 8
Member
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Elky:  But think about yourself in their shoes. Even if they know you’re having the issue and are aware that they’re pretty much “B-List” they should still get a paper invitation of some sort.

Post # 9
Hostess
9907 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Elky:  well if they know then I guess being honest is fine.  I would still give them a proper invite, even if it is different than what everyone else received.  

Post # 10
Hostess
9907 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

oops, double post!

Post # 11
Member
7400 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Can you negotiate with the venue to use the value of the missing guests plates and upgrade soemthing? Like an extra dessert or meal choice or extra canapes? I am pretty sure the venue wouldn’t want to make 200 meals and have to throw out 20-30 of them.

Post # 12
Member
498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

What is your wedding venue? My venue told me I had to hit a minimum 200 adults for the reception (signed the contract saying that). When I had my RSVPs back and realized that was going to happen I contacted the new venue coordinator and she told me if we don’t hit the minimum it’s fine, we can just upgrade our package to make up for the balance. Try see if your venue will do the same thing. We are getting married at The Doctors House.

Post # 14
Member
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Elky:  I think if they are your coworkers the you know them best but I’d make it much clearer than a normal “invitation” and not stick to all the ettiquette – I’d basically say what you said in this post – you don’t expect gifts or anything but basically you will be paying for it regardless so you’d love them to come. Most likely they’ll bring a small gift anyway and appreciate the invite 🙂

Post # 15
Member
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would call the people that have yet to respond as it is past the due date. It’s ok to do that.

Post # 16
Member
498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Elky: hopefully they let you do that! It shouldn’t matter to them I think, as long as they end up making the same money. Good luck!

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