Post # 1
Hey bees, so some may know my other thread right now (Lack of RSVPS) and the struggles I’ve been having with getting people to respond and even attend my wedding. Here’s the update on numbers:
And I have a 200 person minimum at the Venue. Even if all 57 outstanding RSVP’d yes (which I know they wont!) I’d be short. And I did technically sign a contract that says I will have 200 adults there. In an attempt to hit the minimum I was wondering if it would be OK to start inviting some co-workers that I originally did not invite.
Is there a polite way to do this? I don’t have physical invitations to give them either.
Can I invite them and email a copy of the invitation and explain that I’ve recieved a high number of declines and am now able to invite more people? I know they may feel like “spot fillers” but really I’m not expecting them to gift or anything its just that if I have to pay for the spots anyways… I’d rather have someone who knows me show up and eat/drink/dance…..
Post # 3
Can you just send them the 25 remaining invitations? That would be a lot better than an e-vite.
Post # 4
@luluvohn: I think you’re misunderstanding my post. the 25 Outsanding invites are 25 invitations that were sent that we did not hear back from. Not invitations sitting at my house 🙂
Editted original post for clarification.
Post # 5
Can you make new invitations? I know they may not match your original ones, but you can go to Michaels and pick up a set to run through your printer. Then I would just hand them out normally. There’s still plenty of time to invite people.
Post # 6
I would get a kit at Michaels, use the 40% off coupon and they’re quite affordable and they have some pretty nice ones.
If you get them out quickly I think it’s okay. I would refrain from mentioning you’re filling spaces from declines.
Post # 7
@MsGinkgo: Most of my co-workers already know that I’m having this issue though as they’re friends at work, just I was nervous about inviting more than the 265 when I only wanted 200 to show up, so I didn’t send them invitations the first time.
Post # 8
@Elky: But think about yourself in their shoes. Even if they know you’re having the issue and are aware that they’re pretty much “B-List” they should still get a paper invitation of some sort.
Post # 9
@Elky: well if they know then I guess being honest is fine. I would still give them a proper invite, even if it is different than what everyone else received.
Post # 11
Can you negotiate with the venue to use the value of the missing guests plates and upgrade soemthing? Like an extra dessert or meal choice or extra canapes? I am pretty sure the venue wouldn’t want to make 200 meals and have to throw out 20-30 of them.
Post # 12
What is your wedding venue? My venue told me I had to hit a minimum 200 adults for the reception (signed the contract saying that). When I had my RSVPs back and realized that was going to happen I contacted the new venue coordinator and she told me if we don’t hit the minimum it’s fine, we can just upgrade our package to make up for the balance. Try see if your venue will do the same thing. We are getting married at The Doctors House.
Post # 13
@TorontoBride2be: Spirale’s Banquet Hall (just north of the science centre) Dr’s house is a stunning venue btw 🙂
I’m going to call the co-ordinator today and see what he can do. If he says “nothing” then I’ll probably take everyone’s suggestion and get a paper invite of some sort to give to people and start extending more invites.
@j_jaye: BTW, realistically when I looked at the 57 yet to respond, we’re probably going to be at 150 attendees total 🙁
its really sad to me that I have a 43% decline rate 🙁
Post # 14
@Elky: I think if they are your coworkers the you know them best but I’d make it much clearer than a normal “invitation” and not stick to all the ettiquette – I’d basically say what you said in this post – you don’t expect gifts or anything but basically you will be paying for it regardless so you’d love them to come. Most likely they’ll bring a small gift anyway and appreciate the invite 🙂
Post # 15
I would call the people that have yet to respond as it is past the due date. It’s ok to do that.
Post # 16
@Elky: hopefully they let you do that! It shouldn’t matter to them I think, as long as they end up making the same money. Good luck!