Trying to keep the kids upstairs

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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7193 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

KLG05: Other peoples’ kids are not your responsibility.

Tell the parents about the setup ahead of time, and leave it up to the parents. I’m a mother and I’m used to DH and I being responsible for our own kids.

You can get these “stairwell gates” to put in houses, but I’ve only ever seen them the width of a house doorway. They’re only adjustable by a few inches because all household doorways/stairs are pretty similar in width.

Post # 3
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6021 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Hire a couple of babysitters and get a baby gate. If the kids are under 4, they can’t be near a staircase like that unsupervised, even with a gate, and when adults are distracted by the fun of a wedding kids get up to shenanigans.

Post # 4
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42453 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m with aussiemom. Let the parents be responsible for their own children.

If you must use something, try Snow fencing. You can buy it at Home Depot.

 

 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  julies1949.
Post # 6
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6021 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

While it would be nice that parents would keep an eye on their kids, there’s a legal concept of “attractive nuisance” which basically says you as the homeowner or the event sponsor (hostess) have the responsibility to forsee potentially dangerous situations and take reasonable precautions. These laws are usually written about things like dogs, swimming pools and trampolines, which, by their nature, are attractive and interesting to kids and others who don’t have good judgment (the mentally handicapped, or, in some situations, drunk people). it’s why people without kids still have to put fences around their pools. I would be really afraid of getting sued if I didn’t try to aggressively keep the kids out and one of them fell down the stairs.

Post # 7
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6644 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am mom of a 2.5 year old.  I would make the parents responsible for their own children. It is not your job to watch the kids it is their parents.  My DH and I would so watch our son if we were at a wedding like this. 

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Post # 8
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7193 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

When you said “picnic”, I didn’t realise this was also your wedding reception / celebration, so probably a bit more activity than your average picnic. Plus you’re the host and you don’t want to make it too difficult for the parents. Despite the people agreeing with me (thanks ladies!) I now think some sort of barrier would be good.

It turns out you can get barriers that wide. But I imagine not many parents have one that wide. I think your first plan should be to ask around to see if anyone has a wide toddler gate.

Otherwise the babysitter, or designated “stairwell guard” might be a good idea.

Snow fencing is an interesting idea, but I think it would need to be secured very well (i.e. well enough to inconvenience the adults) to be sure of stopping kids.

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