Post # 1
My Fiance and I have always talked about having a destination wedding/honeymoon all in one. Not only is it ultimately cheaper since a lot of honeymoon packages we’ve looked at include a wedding cermoney (small and bare minimum of course, but that’s all we ask), so I really think that we’re going to end up doing that option.
However, if we go that route then I know that both of our parents are going to try to find a way to insert themselves into the wedding. I know that they just want to be a part of it, but we’re really set on keeping it intimate and low-key. We’ll have a photog of course, and share the photos with family.
I haven’t told my parents yet but I’m really set on not letting them sway my mind, so I’m looking into holding our recpetion in NoVA right after the honeymoon so that everybody will be able to attend and celebrate our marriage. I’m thinking that I could even wear my wedding dress (is that tacky?) and make it feel as though we literally just walked off the ceremony platform.
Has anybody else dealt with family members objecting to not being invited to a destination wedding? Any tips?
Post # 3
I was worried about my family having an issue with it. Fiance and I had decided and already made plans for Vegas before we told anyone, and my dad sounded a little hurt, but was ok with us making the choice best for us. The rest of my family is getting together for our normal Christmas and wants to celebrate our marriage then as well, which is nice.
I think the most important thing is to tell them (nicely) that you are doing this, and you just want to share the moment between yourselves. You just need to be firm in your wording, that it’s not up for discussion, and tell them you’re excited to celebrate with them when you return.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
We are doing a package for 20 people at the ceremony. This allows us to being our first degree relatives and closest friends. It includes a cake, but no reception beyond that. We will provide a formal dinner, and a fireworks dessert party for the reception.
We went this route due to costs and family politics. We expect to come out about half of what a honey moon and traditional wedding would have costed together, and get a much more relaxed wedding.
Post # 5
Have the destination wedding you want and invite parents only. Is that an option?
Post # 6
@Nbh1121: I’m going through the exact same thing as you right now, and I’m a NOVA bride too! We planned the big reception at home, but it just got to be too much. And now that we’ve decided to elope (Couples Swept Away, doing the all-inclusive wedding/elopement too!) Future Mother-In-Law is already trying to invite herself.
If she comes, Future Father-In-Law & step-mom, my parents, and our (together) six sets of siblings will come too. Before you know it, it’s the same freaking huge wedding you had before, only add travel to the logistics. What a nightmare. Stay strong!
I don’t have any answers for you, only empathy. Keep me posted on what you end up doing!
Post # 7
I think that there probably is not going to be a scenario that will please everyone. Not even a big huge shindig at home. SOmeone will always be ticked/upset even with your best intentions. So I suggest stop trying to please everyone and really think about what it is that you two really want.