Post # 1
My husband and I just got married a few weeks ago, and he will be leaving for a 6 month deployment very shortly (less than 2 weeks). We have been together for 2 years and change, but this is my first time experiecing a deployment because he was shore duty when we met (he is in the navy). I was doing really good, putting on a brave face, telling myself I was going to pull an Abigail Adams and stay strong, but it just hit me like a ton of bricks about 5 minutes ago that I will not see him for 6 months after he deploys. Very hard to take.
We are in a LDR right now (I’m moving to be with him after he comes back from deployment) so I don’t have any kind of spouses community to work with. I have great friends and great job, but no one to give me any real advice or who has walked this path before.
Believe me I know how lucky I am that it is only 6 months and also that I have a support system. Not complaining, I promise. I’m just freaking out a little. I need to be strong for him this week (going out there in a few days to see him off and spend time with him) and not just crumble.
Post # 3
Don’t worry, you are feeling exactly how you should. It is nerve racking. Just be sure not to let that affect how you talk to him. Don’t pick any fights our get snippy. It’s very easy to fall into that.
you’ll be fine 🙂
Post # 4
@fingerscrossed: Enjoy your time together before he leaves and take it one day at a time when he is gone! Each day is one day closer to being back with him. It’s definately about occupying your mind, especially in the evenings and during the weekend when he is not there. Take this time to do some nice things for yourself, go to the gym, set some goals, find a new hobby, put together a kick ass scrapbook from your wedding. Before you know it he will be home!
Post # 5
Not sure if hes gonna be moving locations often, but learn the time zone so you know when communication is best. Other than that just live daily. Do the same things you would if he was herer. Don’t live waiting by the phone. You’ll be okay really. It gets easier every time.
Post # 6
thanks bees. he’s gone now for 6 months. the week before deployment went really well. he was very happy about all the things i did for him (we moved all his stuff into storage and i basically handled everything, down to dropping off his cable box, LOL) and just kept saying how great it was that i came to visit him and help him. i did pick one fight but i realized right in the middle of it what i was doing, and i apologized.
i did get sick while i was there so now it’s really hard to want to work out/ eat right because all i want to do is read and eat carbs. i was doing ok emotionally until he called last night (surprise call! thought that would not happen for a week) and i heard his voice…and then the call cut out after only a few minutes…heartbreaking