TTC #2 as soon as #1 turns 1…nervous

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Hi, not going through it myself but my nephew had just turned 2 when his brother was born. And it is fine, he kisses his brother helps out, shh’s hin when he cries. Lol 🙂 my sister says it’s the hardest thing she’s ever done having two so close together but she’s never been happier. You can get some fab books about having a new sibling which could be nice to read together & I know your little one is still quite little but my sis used to explain & talk to finn about what was going on x

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t have kids yet, but I read something the other day that had some great advice: you, as the mom, will be giving the new baby a whole lot of attention (especially if you’re breastfeeding). Your husband will be helping you out where he can, but one of the best things he can do is give your eldest child a good chunk of personalized attention each day so that kid #1 doesn’t feel alone while you are taking care of the newborn.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

DD will be just a bit over 17 months when DS is born, and honestly I don’t think she even understands when I talk about a “little bitty baby” or calling her a big sister.

To prepare, we’ve booted DD out of her nursery and started using a booster seat instead of a high chair.  I am hoping she doesn’t feel like the new baby “stole” her stuff!  Again, not sure how much she actually understands since she is SO young, but I’m hoping that she makes the transition to her ‘big girl’ stuff prior to having to adjust to the new baby as well.

It’s pretty daunting to think of having basically two babies at once, and I am certain there will be plenty of bumps along the way, but I’m sure everything will sort itself out.  I’ll check back in a few months and let you know how it goes!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If all goes well we plan to TTC for baby #2 in July/ august of next year.  I’m due to give birth early next month!

Definitely a scary thought but my sister and I were close in age and it was awesome growing up (until we both hit puberty). We are obviously close since then (many many years later) but I really enjoyed having her around and we even had bunk beds!

I’d like to just “get it over with” since 2 is our number and not look back. 

 

You can do it! Xing fingers. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

SouthernSunshine:  so I know this is an old thread, but I did say I’d come back after DS was born and let you know how DD handled the transition :). So far so good! She is now 18 months old and DS is 3 weeks. She loves him! She’s always trying to rock him or hug/kiss him and trying to cover him up. She basically hated me for about a week but that passes quickly and now she’s back to her usual “barely tolerating” mom phase haha. She’s a toddler, what can ya do?!  I do worry that she will “love” her little brother to death…literally! Rocking him turns into a rocket launch, hugging him looks a little violent, and when she covers him she makes sure to get his face. Soooo we are working on being easy with him. It’s sweet though. Juggling two under two is daunting but not impossible. Grocery shopping gets a bit dicey but I e been able to avoid meltdowns for the most part! Good luck when you start TTC!!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

SouthernSunshine:  we had a few practice runs of DD spending the night at grandma and grandpa’s before the baby, but the plan all along was for MIL to come stay at our house to watch her as well as take care of our three dogs. Intros were easy, DD gave him a kiss then clung to MIL the rest of the visit-grandma has always been her favorite! 

 

Good luck TTC! I think honestly it was more dofficials to take care of a toddler while super pregnant than it has been taking care of two of them. It became difficult to bathe DD or take her to the park and stuff. I mean, I’m much busier now, but I’m physicalmy capable of playing with her, cuddling with her on my lap, etc. I hope you get your BFP soooooon!!!!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  DaneLady.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

SouthernSunshine:  A LEEP procedure isn’t going to hurt your chances of conceiving– in the least.  It has the potential to affect your pregnancy because in theory, your cervix is being sliced off, to a degree.  But if you have a good DR, and your damaged cells aren’t deep, you should be just fine.

I had a LEEP and I am currently pregnant.  I am taking weekly progesterone shots– because my son was pre-term. I have read studies where when a cerix is shortened, taking vaginal supplements of progesterone has helped.  I’m sure your DR will help and guide you- knowing about your LEEP procedure.

 

My cervix- last measured at 28 week was about 4.5cm.  So just because you have a LEEP doesn’t necessarily mean you will have issues.

 

I’d be more concerned about a jealous (almost) 2 year old- that said- my friend had a baby when her son was 26 months old and he adores his baby brother.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Narrawallee reserve/beach & Mollymook golf club

SouthernSunshine:  Can I just say, this makes me so excited! And your DS is going to make a fantastic big brother when the time comes. He has such a beautiful little soul 🙂 If you’re worried about jealousy maybe try holding another baby around him (if you get the chance) or a dolly so he gets used to it and I definitely second the special time where you focus entirely on him once baby comes along.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Narrawallee reserve/beach & Mollymook golf club

SouthernSunshine:  After seeing the photos of your DS with the baby doll I tried mine with one of my old ones…. He’s terrified of it! But he does love to push them around in the prams at daycare.

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