TTC 3 cycles in and 3 BFN's what should I try next?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Apps that predict ovulation are basically useless. If you really want to know when you’re ovulating you can try OPKs but even those don’t tell you when you ovulate, they tell you when your body is getting ready to ovulate and then hopefully it will happen in the next couple of days. The best way to track your ovulation is to chart your basal body temperature every morning when you first wake up. I was opposed to it and avoided doing it for a really long time because I thought it would stress me out, but when I finally buckled down and started doing it, it was really easy and I really liked knowing what was going on, I was ovulating like 3 days earlier than I thought (and what an app would have predicted based on my documented symptoms). The website Fertility Friend.com is a great place to start and has all the info you need, and/or you can get the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility, also a big help. Also – 3 months is nothing – getting pregnant takes time and each cycle you really only have about a 25% chance of making it work if your body is working at 100%. It took me 18 months to finally get pregnant successfully!

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

jny1179:  +1 on the charting!

A lot of people thought I was crazy to do that rather than take a “relaxed approach”, but charting actually made me more relaxed, because I found it really helpful to know what’s going on in my body. So many things with TTC are totally out of your control, and it’s nice to at least feel as clued in as possible.

For what it’s worth, we started trying in January 2014, and I didn’t chart for the first 2 cycles. On my 3rd cycle, I charted, and realized I was ovulating about a week and a half later than my predicted O dates (which was based mainly on the average for most people), and I got my BFP that cycle. Unfortunately, that ended in an MC, and then this past cycle was my first cycle trying again—I charted and used OPKs, and got another BFP (which I’m really hoping sticks!!) Obviously this is not everyone’s experience, but charting has obviously helped me!

Even if it doesn’t get you your BFP right away, charting allows you to make sure you’re ovulating, see how long your luteal phase is and if there’s issues there, etc. And if it does end up taking you longer to conceive, you’ll be armed with info to bring to a doctor to get some answers!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Oh, also I used the wondfo OPKs this cycle, mainly because they are far cheaper than other options I saw. Some people don’t like them because they aren’t as easy to interpret as digitals, but I had good luck with them.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Magpie86:  So happy for your BFP!! Hope this is your sticky baby!!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

jny1179:  Thanks so much!! Hopefully I will be joining the Pregnancy after Miscarriage & March 2015 boards soon…I’ve taken four positive tests already, but am getting bloodwork done on Monday and am holding off until then!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

janinaPK:  I got pregnant our fourth month trying, so hang in there! I also had a month where AF came on day 25 when it usually comes on day 29ish, which totally bummed me out since I was sure I was pregnant that month. Don’t worry- just keep having lots of sex! I did try an OPK the month we conceived, it did help pinpoint ovulation a little bit better but I didn’t rely on it as to when to BD- we still did EOD but then got in two days in a row when it was looking more positive. Best of luck to you!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I used the clearblue OPK, we got our BFP the first month trying. we loved them so much we intend on using it this time around for baby #2. charting intimidates me so I kinda took the lazy way out

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I recommend OPKs; and at least twice a day. I used them for a few cycles before we TTC . I found put I usually ovulated around CD17. On the month we got our BFP I Od on CD20! And I had only a short cycle usually: 26-27 days so my luteal phase was pretty short. That is something I worried about because of reading the TTC boards but in the end I don’t think it really mattered. 

 Also, I just bought my OPKs on ebay- like 30 at a time. They are super cheap. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

janinaPK:  To be honest OPKs stressed me out, I was peeing on them all day and never got a positive… that however is my experience. I really feel like what helped was not to put so much focus on ONE day to BD.. it was more after my period ended, we would BD EOD for about a week to a week and a half, approx 10 days so 5 days of BD, that way I knew we covered our bases and it wasn’t like a scheduled BD session where you both feel pressured to perform lol. Wishing you lots of luck

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

janinaPK:  well for us we didnt end up using OPK’s but I was temping. The first month we actually TTC I got pg and am currently 8w6d 🙂 fx everything stays good. After seeing how many bee’s just BD close to their FW and not a lot was happening I came up with my own plan lol. Im not really sure how accurate certain OPK’s are and again seeing so many posts about “is it or isnt it?”, I told DH that around 4-5 days after AF ends (so roughly CD 9-10) we would start BD every second day until I get my temp spike (and maybe once or twice after for good measure lol). I was wonky after stopping BCP so I had no idea when I would Ov or even if I would. We started BD on CD 10 (cause some people go early) and I ended up Ov around CD 19. Less then a week later I was peeing like CRAaaaaZY and ended up taking a day off work because I was so tired. I thought hmmmmm and tested a couple days later on 9DPO and got my BFP!!

I guess the point is…. if your unsure when you O dont wait for those OPK’s, just start BD before you think you will….and just keep going every other day until your 100% positive you’ve O. I’ve read soooo many bee’s getting frustrated because they end up figuring out they O earlier then they thought, or missed it because of x,y,z……At least if you’ve done that you know you’ve done all you can do and covered the bases. BD from CD10-20 is only 4-5 times in 10 days…. thats not toooo crazy….hubs should be able to handle that for a month until you get it figured out 😉

with temping all I did was take my temp in the morning and plug it into my app…. took 30 seconds out of my day. It creates the chart for you so all you have to look for is your spike up and then its break time/tww.

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