Post # 1
after nine months of ttc, with the help of our re, we finally got pregnant. the excitement only lasted two months. we found out at nine weeks, we had miscarried and i had my d&c two days ago. i’m not sure where to go from here. i know some people start ttc again after their first normal cycle or so, but the problem is i haven’t had a “normal” cycle without fertility meds in over a year. i have an appt to return to my RE in a month. i figure we can relax and give ourselves some time to greive until then and then work out a plan from there. any ttc 6 months+ gals have any advice for returning to their RE’s after a miscarraige? will we start from the beginning, or pick up where we left off? after nine months of trying and two months of pregnancy, i can’t believe we have nothing to show for it and we’re back to square one.
Post # 3
@thesaurus rex: I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. I had a mc/ectopic pregnancy this spring. We have been trying since last August. I was only 5+wks when the mc started. But it was a long process and they ended up discovering I had an ectopic and needed shots of methotrexate. I wast able to conceive without the help of clomid. Ive had 1 AF cycle and I’m hoping that after I got AF this mth my dr with put me on clomid to start trying again. My biggest suggestion is to give yourself time to heal. The emotional part can be a roller coaster. And then when you see your RE be honest about what you want. And have them help you with a game plan.
I am sending you ((hugs)) and hoping that everything works out.
Post # 4
Oh I’m so very sorry! That is absolutely heartbreaking 🙁 I agree that give yourself some time to grieve and come to terms with what happened. Just because it happened once, doesn’t mean that it will happen again. Children are such a blessing and even if the road to have one takes longer, it is so worth it in the end. HUGS!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss. *hugs*
I wasn’t seeing an RE until after my 2nd miscarriage, but I’ve been ttc for over 2 years with both miscarriages happening in the last 8 months so I can relate. It just plain sucks and it’s even worse when you’ve been trying for a while. Give yourself time to grieve and then just see what your RE says and how you feel about everything. It might be that by that time you are ready to try again, or it might be that you need more time. Give yourself whatever time you need!
Post # 6
@thesaurus rex: I have not yet been trying for greater than six months (almost five, actually) but I just wanted to say I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I, too, have had a miscarriage and it was painful enough as it is. To lose it after waiting for so long and after so much you have gone through, I couldn’t imagine.
Post # 7
I am so so so sorry that you are going through this. We got pregnant very early into our relationship with out even trying and had a miscarriage at 7 weeks. It was the hardest thing that I have ever gone through.
You will go through alot of emotions just be ready to talk about them. Dont hold anything in. I remember being so so devestated, sad, hurt, mad at God, mad at my Body… mad at Dh. All these things are normal. You have to get through this cycle to to HEAL.
You will never ever get over this, but you will learn how to heal and deal with losing the baby. Just have faith in your body, have faith in your meds and know that you will be a mommy one day. I’m here if you need anything.