TTC advice

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Apps don’t know anything about your atual cycle and assumes a “perfect” 28 day cycle which is not actually the norm.  If you are temping and it has not shown a clear temp spike, you have not ovulated yet, and if your OPKs have all been negative, then no LH surge yet either. 

Are you checking/noticing CM?  In the past, when I’m tired of using OPKs everyday, I wait until I notice more water/eggwhite CM, and then start OPKs and have managed to catch a postive OPK.

You don’t have to know when you actually ovulated if you are BD regularly everyday 2-3 days throughout the cycle.  Plenty of people get pregnant without all this tracking.  For me, we’re actually too damn tried to keep that up, so it makes me feel better knowing when O is coming up and when to definitely make time to BD.

Also my first cycle off the pill was normal.  About 33 days.  My second cycle however, was 96 days.  I didn’t ovulated until CD82, so it would not be unheard of to have a normal cycle, followed by a wonky one.  (3rd cycle was normal too, 4th cycle was also 90+ days.  Then afterwards I was normal.  Until now, but that could be a result of the IVF meds since this is the first ccle after that)

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It is perfectly normal to have unpredictable/long cycles when coming off the pill. I went off in May. My first cycle was 30 days, second was 33, so I was ovulating late. I can’t tell you how it went from there because I got pregnant (unfortunately I miscarried and am now starting over) but the fact that you haven’t ovulated yet is certainly no cause for panic. I haven’t used OPK’s, though I probably will when I TTC again. I also don’t chart, I am far too neurotic for that, but as many bees would tell you, it’s the best way to get to know your body. Your app cannot tell you when you will/should ovulate unless you are temping/charting and giving it data to work with. Otherwise, it is simply estimating based on a “normal” 28-day cycle, which you should not necessarily expect to have right away after stopping the pill. I’m sure other bees will have great advice to you… Just wanted to tell you not to panic! Good luck!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

An app has no idea when your fertile window is.  It assumes you have a “normal” 28-day cycle but often times coming off the pill women have longer cycles than 28 days.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

The app assumes you have a perfect cycle, which most people don’t. I personally don’t O until day 18-20. It’s also very normal to have some wonky cycles after coming off of BC. Try not to worry too much!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Do you have problems with fertility? If not, you don’t really need to stress about charting and all of this other stuff.

Yes, it’s great to know how your body works, but charting and temping and trying to find our every last bit of information won’t be that helpful. Your body knows what to do, and all of this probably isn’t going to help much. If anything, stressing about this could become a hindrance. 

If you don’t have issues with fertility, take it easy. Learn how your body generally works, but other than that, just take a good prenatal vitamin, eat well, relax, and have sex. You don’t need to reinvent the wheel to get pregnant. It’s not a science experiment or something you have to make happen. For the most part and for most people, including yourself, taking care of yourself and having sex is all that’s necessary. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Rhopalocera:  I am so glad you said this. I don’t chart. I had one miscarriage recently, but given how common that is and how healthy I am otherwise, I will not be charting unless I am given a reason to do so. Coming on these boards can be intimidating at times because charting is such a common topic of conversation. And while it makes sense for a lot of women, the fact that I am easily stressed out means charting would probably hinder the process more than help me. I think relaxation will be the key for me! Depending on each individual’s personality, charting may be helpful or harmful. When beginning to TTC, sometimes just taking it easy is the way to go! And charting is always an option if needed.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Kay1126:  Exactly. 

Unfortunately, a lot of women, especially women on the younger side, have started doing what amounts to trying to make pregnancy happen. It’s not so much a natural process to many of them as something they want to make their bodies do at a specific time.

It’s interesting, to say the least. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Rhopalocera:  Agreed. While recent events have stressed me out, I’m trying to focus on making this an enjoyable experience, one that my husband and I can look back on as something that brought us even closer.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  Kay1126.
  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  Kay1126.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

preppysouthernbride:  I agree it’s useful. I’m just saying charting (which IS temping, checking CM, etc) would lead to obsessing for me, which is why I agreed with PP about how it’s not always necessary. I’m a biologist, I know plenty about the human body. I’m just not interested (yet?) in having to measure and monitor everything to have a baby. Not charting does not mean being clueless. I pay attention to the cues my body gives me and go from there.

ETA: sorry if I came across a bit harsh, it’s difficult to judge someones tone online sometimes. And thank you for your condolences.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  Kay1126.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have to say, charting has made me much LESS stressed in this whole TTC process! I realize that may not be the norm for some but for me, knowing what my body is doing is a great comfort. I came off the pill in February and have had some really long wonky cycles. (+100 days, 43 days, 35 days…) Temping and seeing exactly when I ovulated not only saved me tons of worry but also, money! I didn’t need to buy a bunch of pregnancy tests since I knew I hadnt ovulated yet! HA! 

Charting is definitely not for everyone, I don’t disagree with that. But if you’re someone who likes to have as much info as possible, it can be a great tool in getting to know your body and cycles 🙂 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

AOriver:  I agree!  With longer cycles temping has definitely eased my mind.  Knowing that I’m on CD 33 and still havent ovulated, I’m not wasting $ peeing on sticks now, and once ovulation is confirmed, I can ease off the BD and just relax if we’re not in the mood.

preppysouthernbride:  If you have history of fertility issues in your family and a real reason to believe you have problems ovulating, I would certainly continue to temp and track spotting/cm/wahtever, maybe not OPK if that drives you crazy, but temping should be as easy as rolling over when the alram goes off and listening to that darn thermometer beep.  If it unfortunately  turns out there is some kind of issue, you have cycle history to show your doctor.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with charting. I’ve used charting to avoid pregnacy (that should change soon). LOL. But, I think that you should simplify the process a bit. What’s most annoying for me is taking my temperature. BUT, I just stumbled on this product (made by the app that I use) Kindara. You just hold it and it takes your temperature AND syncs it wirelessly to your phone!!!!!!! I know! So cool. Take a look: https://kindara.com/r/aCHkQ0g5S

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