(Closed) TTC after MC/ectopic

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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5111 posts
Bee Keeper

@Wispy:  I’ve been told by numerous clinicians that they only really say to wait for mental health reasons, that there is no physiological benefit. They were referring to M/C not necessarily ectopic, though. I suppose if you didn’t have any damage from that that the same rules would apply.

I’m so sorry for your loss. =(

I started trying right away after my M/C. My cycle was too wonked for a pregnancy and it has been four cycles since with no BFP. =/

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

First off I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t have experience with ectopic, but miscarried at 8 weeks in April. I tried again immediately, midwife said it was fine. I just got my second BFP today on my second cycle post MC. I think my body was too messed up the first cycle, and this second one was a long one, O on CD 39. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry for your loss, especially after trying so long. We had our miscarriage after trying for 10 months, so I understand how extra emotional and frustrating it is.

We miscarried in early September of last year and started trying again right away. We got another BFP 3 cycles later (in early December), and I’m 37 weeks pregnant now.

We were advised to let a full cycle play out before trying again (we didn’t), just to make sure everything was cleared and in working order, and to make dating a subsequent pregnancy easier (although it’s easy to do with an ultrasound), but mostly so the woman has time to mentally heal. 

Mine wasn’t ectopic, though…I don’t know how that would effect trying again. 

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

As long as your doctor didn’t give you a specific timeframe (usually only applicable with a surgical procedure, but I suppose the methotrexate could maybe “linger”, but that’s probably not likely), you can start trying right away again if that’s what you want to do. Some people want the time to greive, but some people want to hit the ground running again. You do what’s right for you.

I’m sorry for your loss.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hi hun:) I know we’ve chatted before, but ew only waited until I got AF one time before trying again.  With the metho, it should all be out of your system now (really only takes about 8-10 days) and as long as you’ve been diligent about taking pre-natals, your folic acid levels should be back to a normal, healthy place.

The mental health part of it is a double edged sword- or at least it was for us.  We wanted to make sure that we were both emotionally ready for BFN’s again (which was HARD), but on the other hand, each month we weren’t pregnant was another “missed” opportunity. 

Did your doctor specifically say to wait until you got AF two times?  If (s)he did, I might call the practice and see why, specifically, they recommend that- emotional/medical/etc.  Once you know WHY they suggest it, you can better determine whether you want to follow their advice or not.

Big hugs love, I’m rooting for you guys! 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We didn’t wait for a period technically, but I’m not sure I ovulated anyway!! We started for sure after I got my period. I’m 4 dpo on our second cycle since the miscarriage!!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

@Wispy:  You are so strong!! You found a lot of positives in a tough situation. I applaud you!! =) Good luck to you on Tuesday!! =)

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