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I had a miscarriage May 10 (at 6 wks).  We can start trying again (yay!)...cleared by my doctor to do so.  I am on day 7, probably will start OPKs soon. 

For those of you who have experienced miscarriages, how did you not get your hopes up in the first few months of trying?  I can't get it out of my head that I am going to get pregnant right away...I am trying so hard to be relaxed about it, but I want it to happen again so badly at this point.

Thanks : )

Thanks ladies and good luck to those of you who are expecting!

@Colors - I know I'll be nervous if/when I do get pregnant again, too.  Trying to focus on one neuroses at a time!

Well the first month TTC again, no BFP.  At first, it was a huge disappointment (especially after reading so many stories of women who got pregnant right away after their miscarriage).  I'm trying to stay really positive this month.

@Shelby - good luck to you too : )

@Hoping - i'm sorry for your loss and good luck starting TTC again! 

I have all the same fears as you, too and obsess over the possibility that maybe I have an issue that I don't know about.   But, I am really just trying to stay positive.  I got my period almost 6 wks after my miscarriage - I was also cleared to start trying after my first period (I didn't need a D&C, it was a natural miscarriage). 

It's hard isn't it?  I feel like the highs are higher and the lows are lower.  Just starting my TWW of cycle 2 post m/c TTC and going to do my best to stay sane (but I think it's pretty much impossible).

Good luck to everyone : )

I had a natural miscarriage (no D and E required). Mine also cleared us to start trying again after I got AF.  It took almost 6 wks for me to get AF though after the miscarriage.  I'm currently TTC cycle 2 post m/c.  Cycle 1 was pretty long (34 days) and this cycle I O'd on CD 19 (resulting in a 31 or 32 day cycle if I don't get P)

I'm so sorry for your loss.  

I had a m/c and D&C with my first PG, and then I was very fortunate and was PG with my son 6 weeks later.  I'm sure your OB has told you to call the minute you get a positive test, but I wanted to re-emphasize this point.  When you get your BFP (and you will!), get an appt for blood work ASAP.  I was so glad I did, b/c my blood work revealed low progesterone and my OB was able to put me on supplements that supported my 2nd PG.  With a lot of early m/c, low progesterone is the culprit, but you can't really tell after the fact.  

Also, your OB will likely categorize you as high risk with subsequent pregnancies, and this is a good thing!  They will expect paranoia from you so don't feel bad about it; I know I freaked over every twinge, cramp, spot of blood, etc.  I even got a portable doppler so I could check DS's heartbeat whenever I wanted.  

Good luck going forward and lots of baby dust!

@inspired - thanks for your story! 

My doctor told me the same thing - call right away when you get a BFP and we'll get you in for a blood test.  She also said that they will monitor me closely if I want.  But, as long as there are no issues, they can treat me as though I never had a m/c.  I think I'd like to be in between.  I was lucky (?) to have my m/c so early so did not have to go through what a lot of women on here have been through with later miscarriages.  I will probably want some reassurances but I fear that monitoring me too closely might just make me obsess more.  All hypothetical right now, though.