TTC after miscarriage / miscarriage support

posted 2 weeks ago in TTC
Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

sleepymelis :  I’m hoping my next one will be regular. I’m hoping this month and next will give me a good idea of what my new cycle will be like because it has probably changed. My body has been out of whack for months with two failures to launch. I just wanna go into my first cycle back to TTC with some useful info. 

Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

ROLL CALL

Your Age/Partner’s Age: We’ll both be 32 in the next 2 weeks

How long you have been together/married: Together 7 years, married 4.5

How long you have been TTC: 19 months, just about to start AF and start our 2nd cycle TTC after my MMC

Known Issues/MC/TTC History: Unexplained RPL. Suspected ectopic in October 2016, MMC at 8 weeks in late July, MMC at 9 weeks in December. Every test comes back exactly normal, which is frustrating as hell.

Your TTC plans for the next few months: My first RE appointment is next Wednesday and we’ll see what he thinks. Right now, I’m taking prenatals and CoQ10, I’m using OPK’s, charting, pre-seed and BD timing

Just for fun: What’s your next big trip / life event outside of TTC? Well, the plan as of right now is to go to Maui for my BIL’s second wedding in September. What we would rather happen is that we get pregnant and can’t go. Other than that, I’m really looking forward to summer so we can go hiking and camping.

CD29 here and just waiting around for AF to arrive. I did ovulate late, so it’s making this cycle a bit longer than normal. My PMS has been super bad, so I’m really ready to just start a new cycle and hopefully my hormones will level out a bit. 

Post # 63
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326 posts
Helper bee

lovebirds2016 :  I’m planning out next month’s as well but still hoping on the inside. I’m just frustrated that I am to the point where I’m doing this testing stuff and I just want to move on to the next phase. I’m not used to this wondering and confusion. I used to have a perfect 28 day cycle and conceived in the first month both times we tried so I’m doing the whole comparing thing, too. I hope you are regulating. Fingers crossed!

busybee1016 :  Ugh. Some people just don’t have a clue. 

sleepymelis :  

MrsBubsy :  

I’m so sorry the two of you went through that! The first day I came back to work, one of the other teachers I work with announced her pregnancy – due three days before I was due. I work in her classroom and the one next door, she is due two days after I should have been. Sometimes life just kicks you in the balls. It’s hard and it sucks and no one expects you to be all smiles. Hugs!

Post # 65
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Bee Keeper

MrsBubsy :  I’m glad you’re feeling better today! Isn’t it crazy how the sadness can just hit you out of nowhere? I burst into tears while talking to my mom on the phone yesterday when she asked how I was doing, and spilled the whole story about my latest mindf*ck of a cycle and the “CP” etc. Not my finest moment!

In better news, I had a GREAT appointment with my new OBGYN today. She talked to me for 40+  min before even doing the physical exam, listened to my concerns and didn’t dismiss anything. She agreed to run some blood tests to rule out a few things that could cause recurrent pregnancy failures, so I had those done today. She said she’d be willing to do an HSG to see how my uterus looks and test for blood clotting disorders too, but I figure I’ll wait to see how these first blood panels come back before deciding about those additional tests. She also wrote me a prescription for progesterone suppositories that I can start taking the next time I get a BFP. She said research is mixed on whether there’s an actual benefit to taking progesterone, but it’s clear that there is no harm, and since many REs prescribe it as a matter of course she’s happy to do it. 

She also said on my next pregnancy she’ll do my first ultrasound at 6 weeks rather than making me wait til 8. I know hearing the heartbeat at 6 weeks doesn’t guarantee anything, but I think this will really help me psychologically. I miscarried at 6w5d last time, so being able to hear a heartbeat at 6 weeks would make me feel a lot better; that would be a big milestone for me. I am pretty sure I wouldn’t have been able to hear a heartbeat at 6 weeks if I’d had a scan with the last one – I just think the pregnancy never progressed to that point given my HCG was already down to 350 when I had my HCG beta done on the day of the miscarriage.

Anywayyyyyyyy sorry for the long rambling post. TL;DR: feeling much more positive about everything because I feel like I’m in good hands, finally!

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

tiffanybruiser :  That sounds fabulous!!! I’m so happy you’ve found such a good doctor!! I am so torn about switching doctors. I love my practice and the doctor which delivered my daughter is amazing – I’d love to switch to her, but I’d feel too awkward to switch within the practice. And I love the hospital and it’s close to work which is super convenient for me. But it’s 30+ minutes from home which is a downside. I still don’t know what to do. But — yay for you!! This makes me really happy to hear ๐Ÿ™‚ Things are looking up for you yet!

sleepymelis :  Oh no!! Your poor friend. Don’t feel bad though. You had no way of knowing! Fingers crossed everything is ok for her. 

Post # 68
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260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

tiffanybruiser :  so happy for you that your new OB has a plan in place and listened to you. That really is a great feeling. My new OB suggested the same thing for me. Progesterone right away after BFP. Sending positive vibes your way..sorry you cried on the phone with your mom but sometimes you just need to do it.

Post # 70
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Buzzing bee

tiffanybruiser :  Love this update! There is nothing like a doctor that actually LISTENS to you. FX tests come back normal. I’m glad you’re finally in good, capable, understanding hands. 

Post # 71
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

tiffanybruiser :  this is awesome!! It sounds like you found an amazing OB! I hope your journey is easy from here!

Post # 72
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Helper bee

tiffanybruiser :  delighted the doctor listened to you!

sleepymelis :  I’m sorry about your friend, don’t worry about having a moan we’re all human. I’m sure you’ll be able to offer her support going forward. 

Currently 4dpo and we had excellent timing (which can be an issue for us). Feeling that nice early optimism that comes post ovulation before I start obsessing about twinges and cramps. Trying to focus on eating healthily & some light exercise (I can be lazy). Roll on next week when I’ll be a lunatic ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

So I had an appt with my dr Monday to discussed my earl mc/ cp. no evidence of underlying problems so she said it was likely just a one time thing. She did recommend waiting a month to ttc but I’m thinking about going against this and trying this cycle since evidence shows that it isn’t really necessary if there are no obvious medical reasons. Anyone else do this? I do feel informed (I am a health professional too and can access the research). Just not really wanting to “waste” a cycle and feel ready to try again….

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

ceamoste :  same here. Pregnant with sticky baby first try last time. Hugs to all those who haven’t had that experience or have gotten their first sticky baby. I was devastated with this cp and cant imagine everyone else’s struggles 

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