TTC After Miscarriage or Loss – Part 14

posted 5 months ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Roll call: 34/34

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): First time TTC since D&C on 11/29

MC History: D&C on 11/29 at 8.5 weeks

Issues (if any): none that I know of

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): Did OPK’s ad Clearblue Digital Ovulation tests once I got a negative HPT on 12/16/16 – Got my stong positive OPK and solid smiley on 12/29 – We BD on 12/28, 12/29/, 12/30, and 12/31 – kicking myself for not BD’ing on 1/1…For whatever reason I thought I was in the clear so now I don’t think my odds are good this month.

What are your biggest challenges right now? The limbo stage…Haven’t had my period since the D&C so just waiting on that or to get my BFP.  Who knows how long it can take for AF to show up. 

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes:  Nothing really, just keeping my hopes up 🙂

Just for fun: Any New Year resolutions?  To be more present and not stress as much—TTC doesn’t help this!! 

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Post # 4
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Helper bee

alaska_99705 :  I’m sorry about your loss!  I’m in the same boat, my daugther was conceived right away and no issues.  I guess we go the short end of the stick this time around. 

Did you have your levels checks to make sure the HCG was going down?  My doctor didn’t do it but I took HPT’s until the line was gone and started on OPK’s because even though my doctor said to wait a cycle (for dating purposes only) I wanted to try rigth away again.  I ended up getting my positive OPK on 12/29, almost 30 days after my D&C….just waiting for AF to show up if I don’t get my positive BFP – I’m not holding out hope for that.  That being said if AF does show up in 2 weeks, it’ll be about 6 weeks from d&c until my period returned which is pretty normal I think. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

alaska_99705 :  “Let your faith be bigger than your fear” has been my most favorite saying since my MC. I have it on my phone lock screen and look at it often!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Roll call: 31/35 Trying for our first

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): Not really sure…3DPO on my first real cycle after MC, we were supposed to be sitting it out (2-3 months) but we didn’t behave so well. Our timing wasnt the best either, though, and we definitely werent “trying”.

MC History: MC’d our little girl on Nov 14th at 15wks. First pregnancy

Issues (if any): None that I’m aware of yet. Took us 3 months to conceive our last one, so really hoping we are as fortunate this time!

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): Next cycle we are going to get back into actively trying, timing, etc. I tempted after my MC and this cycle just to see what my body was doing, but that’s about it. I am O’ing later now and my cycles have been a bit longer, but i also am still testing positive and seem to have some residual HCG in my system. We probably should have been more diligent about protection this cycle but…..what can ya do. 😉 I’m still surprised and confused about how I got a period, and O’d, when i still have faint faint postives on HPTs from the MC.

Link to chart: 

What are your biggest challenges right now? Trying to stay positive, especially because everyone around me seems to be pregnany or have very new newborns. I oscilate between REALLY wanting this, and wanting it right now….and wanting more time because i’m so scared of it happening again.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: One was already mentioned, so the other is:

“Maybe life isnt about avoiding the bruises. Maybe it’s about collecting the scars to prove we showed up.”

Just for fun: Any New Year resolutions? I dont really do New Years resolutions but I am going to try and be kinder to myself. More self care, more self love, less blame and guilt. My coping strategies have been sugar and alcohol so I’m working really hard to get into a healthier mindset, and a healthier lifestyle as a result. I also joined a gym. 🙂

Post # 8
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Honey bee

alaska_99705 :  I hope I can still join, I had a miscarriage back in September.

 

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): currently pregnant, conceived after miscarriage in one try

MC History:  two miscarriages

Issues (if any): none that I know of

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): This time around I made sure to take prenatals when we were TTC instead of after I found out I was pregnant

Link to chart: chart is done through phone app

What are your biggest challenges right now? Not freaking out about being pregnant and losing the baby again.  So many of our friends have announced their pregnancies for April-July.  So I’m afraid I won’t be able to announce because my last pregnancy ended in a miscarriage right around this time.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: Focusing on the future. My best quote is, everything happens for a reason, if it’s meant to be it will be.

Just for fun: Any New Year resolutions? Eating better!  Already doing horrible on it.

Post # 11
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Honey bee

alaska_99705 :  I think having been pregnant three times, (even though one was a miscarriage) I was able to recognize my body symptoms much more easily and knew when I was ovulating which was slightly different than what my chart said, which I think helped immensely.  If everything is right in the world I am 8+2!  *fingers crossed*

Post # 12
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Honey bee

pinkisthenewblue :  Did your doctor say it was a period?  I think I read somewhere online that you can have random miscarriage (even after it’s finished and done) several weeks after depending on how far along you were.  Just asking because I know after a miscarriage everything can be wonky.

Post # 13
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201 posts
Helper bee

alaska_99705 :  I haven’t, no. The line is so faint

that i keep expecting the next one to be negative (one last week definitely was, but I’m quite sure I’m not pregnant again since I only ovulated Like 4 days ago this cycle). I’m going to test one last time on Sunday and then call on Monday if it’s positive to get more betas. My last beta was Dec 7th and my count was 100, so I’m surprised it has taken so long to go from 100 to 0. I had an ultrasound post-mc where they said everything had cleared out, so I guess my body is super slow at getting the hcg out…. 

 

Not sure what happens if i get pregnant with hcg still in my system, or if I even can, but I’m quite positive this wasn’t our month anyway. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

pinkcorsage :  I haven’t seen him since my 4 week checkup when I had to do a pap smear  but I got my period 5 weeks post MC and it was 4 days of bleeding….so I’m pretty sure it was a legit period? According to my temps it looked to be one as well.

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Hello!

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): TTC cycle 

MC History: Chemical at the end of August followed straight away by miscarriage at 8 weeks in November

Issues (if any): Unknown… been told for years I have PCOS only to be told at a scan while I was pregnant that I didn’t have PCOS… Also, I spot for up to a week before my period most months so not sure whether that has anything to do with it.

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): Chill! And not to test until at least 14DPO

Link to chart: 

What are your biggest challenges right now? My mum starts chemotherapy next week so if we were to be able to get (and stay) pregnant it would be a great present for her at the end of her treatment.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: To try carry on as normal and not to stress

Just for fun: Any New Year resolutions? Not really 🙂

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