TTC After Miscarriage or Loss – Part 14

posted 5 months ago in TTC
Post # 152
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

dachshundpup15 :  Yup, I’m with you on this one.  We have some additional factors to consider (getting pregnant with our 2nd spurred our geneticist to do some long overdue testing on our daughter), and we’re now waiting for results.  My  husband wants to move ahead with more babies right away, but I’m just not feeling up to it (I had my MC 7 weeks ago, and just had my first AF since, so we could start TTC right away).  I’m looking forward to working out hard, having some wine and enjoying the summer – ideally I’d like to wait till fall I think, but I know he wants to get going right away, and I’m not 100% sure I’m up to it.

Post # 153
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715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

bjenmomma :  Yep,

I find myself trying to convince myself tht i’m ready. The first time we got pregnant, I was go ready, I was excited, i was doing the full 9 – tempong, cm checking, everything. Now i’m just meh about it, I can’;t shake off the ‘meh’ feeling…all the while i feel guilty because my husband is so eager to be a father.

Post # 154
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

AF finally showed today! The wait has been torture. Today is exactly 5 weeks since my hCG was back down to 0 after my Ectopic….and I’ve been sitting around just waiting on AF to show. I was thinking it may start soon, since I’ve had cramps all day, and was glad to see it for once!

Post # 155
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715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Well it turns out that I am pregnant – still getting my head around it, but I’m happy to have a child. The process of getting the child is making me bloody miserable. Because my previous loss was so early I never experienced morning sickness. My freaking goodness – how women are able to hide it at work for weeks is beyond me. Anyway, I want to wish you all the best. I hope you get your rainbow babies soon and I hope this little bean sticks. 

Post # 156
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97 posts
Worker bee

Status (MC cycle/rest cycle/TTC cycle): rest/mc cycle 

MC History: blighted ovum miscarriage at almost 9 weeks

Issues (if any): Unknown… period hasn’t returned after D&C at the end of January. It’s been almost 16 weeks. Did a round of progestorgne and that failed to jumpstart my system. Due to my age (37) we have been sent to an infertility clinic. Worried I have scar tissue from the d&c.

Action Plan for next TTC cycle (ie Baby Aspirin, progesterone, etc): progestorgne challenge failed. Waiting on extended lab results, including AMH levels. Going to infertility clinic next week.

Link to chart: 

What are your biggest challenges right now?

The fact that my period hasn’t returned and I have no idea why.

Current coping strategies/favorite inspirational quotes: To try carry on as normal and not to stress

 



Post # 157
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Melly319 :  I just went though the same thing. D&C with no return of my period after a couple of cycles. I got severe cramps and pain each month when my period was due but zero bleeding. I had a couple of u/s that showed what appeared to be blood or fluid in my uterus. My RE was worried and sent me in for a hysteroscopy and it tuned out my cervix was 95% scarred from my d&c. I had the scar tissues removed last month and am waiting and hoping for my period to return this month. Have they done any testing to look into scarring for you? If not, I’d push for it!! 

Post # 158
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97 posts
Worker bee

MsTrulove22 :  first,  I’m sorry you had to go through that. A miscarriage is already difficult enough but then dealing with the unknown of why your cycle hasn’t restarted and being unable to try again is frustrating. 

 

They have not looked at my uterus yet. A week after the d&c they did an ultrasound to make sure I didn’t retain any tissue. She said in 6-8 weeks I should have a period. Well it didn’t happen. So at 10 weeks she had me do a progestorgne challenge. Nada. So then she said due to my age she wanted me to go straight to an infertility clinic. The clinic had a two week wait for my consult phone appointment. So more time lost. Finally did some labs this week which allowed me to be cleared to schedule an appointment with the clinic for next week. At that time we will review my labs and probably schedule an appointment for a hysteroscopy. I too have had some cramping more recently. In fact I was sure the progestorgne was going to work due to the cramping, but nothing. It’s so damn frustrating. 

Do you mind if I ask how the procedure was to remove the scar tissue? Did they give you an estimated likelihood of it being effective?

Post # 159
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Melly319 :  I’m also so sorry for your loss. I was at my limit after 11 weeks and no period so I can only imagine the anguish over 16 weeks. If it is scarring they should be able to find it on a hysteroscopy. Hoping you can get that done next week as well. 

When they first mentioned the possibility of scarring I was so worried, but the process ended up being much easier than I imagined. I have to wait to see if my period returns to know if we were truly successful, but up till now it has not been bad. I did the hysteroscopy without any sedation so I found it to be a bit painful, but the whole procedure only lasted about 5 min. It was so much quicker than I thought. I ended up having no scarring in my uterus just my cervix.

I went to a doctor that specialized in scarring, not my regular RE. Although he did not give me a chance of recurrence, he seemed pretty confident that it was not likely no return. Fingers crossed!

hoping for the best for you!! Feel free to ask me any questions. 

Post # 160
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97 posts
Worker bee

MsTrulove22 :  thank you for the follow up. Goodness this journey cam really test you. All signs are pointing to ashermans syndrome and yet getting my OB or the clinic to perform the necessary tests is like pulling teeth. Today I woke up with lots of cramping and emailed both my OB and clinic. Haven’t heard back from OB but clinic said I’d have to see my OB again before they would order the HSG testing. It’s very annoying. I wake up everyday wondering what this day will bring…but it usually ends with more questions than answers. Hoping I get my testing done soon because I can’t live in limbo any longer, four months is long enough!

 

Glad to hear you be had a good experience getting it corrected and wish you a speedy recovery! Sending good vibes your way!

Post # 161
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

dachshundpup15 :  Congrats on the pregnancy!  I was in the Sept 17 group with you, and was sad to see you go then.  Hoping you are able to feel hopeful and excited about this pregnancy, but know that it’s totally ok to have mixed feelings.

 

AFM, I’m on birth control again, I got a 6 month supply and we’ll reassess at the end of the 6 months.  I feel good about it.  I’m working out like crazy, and am looking forward to having a body I want going into another pregnancy, rather than feeling gross and out of shape right from the get-go.

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