Post # 1
So FI and I will be married this year, and want to TTC next year….however I am hopefully going to start an online RN-MSN program this fall….it would be 100% online and clinicals would be at my job so i wouldnt have to drive….anywhere and clinicals would be a select handful….I feel ready, we are financially frugal people and we can defenitly afford both since my job will pay for the majority of my schooling as long as I continue to work for them which is not a problem….as they are where I want to work when i am done with school anyways….
Our plan is to try and start TTC and hopefully concieve early next year….where I would have started in the program…..so if I get done with school on time, and the pregnancy happens naturally for us….and we have a happy healthy pregnancy, I would have maybe 2 semesters left with an infant….
we really want to start TTC soon, so im not really looking in this post for why we should just wait….believe me we’ve made hat argument to ourselves and have decided we want to try this….so please dont present that side…I am looking for advice on making it work…..since I will be working as well….but I know tons of women (many in my family who are giving me advice, and it is helpful but im looking for more perspective on what it was like for others…) my cousin popped out her kiddo….and went back to a very intensive nursing program 3 weeks later and she pulled off all A’s and had a happy healthy relationship with her kiddo….
we have tons of family support and both sets of grandparents are very excited to babysit, as are other relatives who live near by…..plus my work has a daycare….and I work 3 days a week….so the other 4 i could spend on homework and baby…..
Also any advice on what to do before TTC would be amazing! Did you see the doctor before you started TTC, any advice in general to do body wise would be appreciated!
my family has given some advice, and its just been general as we have not told anyone we plan on ttc that soon….
Post # 3
Were planning to start TTC during my grad school. I think it’d be super easy while only having online classes. It sounds like you’ve got it figure out. I’m just going to ask my doctoe a few questions at my annual.
Post # 4
@kansas_nurse: I think it sounds very doable for you since you have a good work schedule, online classes, good childcare and tons of family support! I had my daughter during grad school and I had a terrible work schedule, no family or other support system, and my husband had to travel a lot for work. And our daughter had colic. I had to quite school to be a SAHM because I couldn’t handle school plus everything else on my own.
I would just say, don’t expect to return to school/work right away after the baby’s born. It might be easy if you have a newborn who sleeps all the time, or you might have a colicky baby and be a zombie… just be flexible! As far as preparing to TTC, I would just start taking prenatal vitamins and fish oil and make sure you’re generally healthy.
Post # 5
@caritas: thanks….and i had planned on taking a full 6-8 weeks off of work….Im not going back right away…I think since we do have soo much support we will be able to handle it!
@MrsN14: Thats what I am thinking of doing….and just asking to make sure my body is healthy for baby….
Post # 6
I have done online classes over the years, so my advice pertains to that:
I would treat your classes as part of your job: create a schedule and stick to it. If you work 3 days, maybe set aside 2 days that are just for classes, and find someone willing to watch the baby while you do that. That way you don’t feel pulled in two directions or feel like you should be with baby while working on classes, or vice versa.
Definitely give yourself a period of time after baby is born before returning to school and work. You will need that time to heal, adjust, and get used to being a mommy.
BTW, I did have a preconception appointment with my midwives before we started the process of TTC. They basically did a physcial to see if there was anything obvious that needed attention (for example, anemia or hypothyroid). We talked about medications I was on that needed to be phased out (in my case a migraine medication) and how to do that. We talked about my general health (weight, allergies, etc) and any questions/concerns I had. It was great to have the opportunity to talk through everything before we got started. *Keep in mind this was with a midwife, not an OB, so it might be a little different. Oh, and definitely start taking a prenatal right away, even before your begin TTC. Studies have shown that this is linked with a decrease in certain developmental issues.