TTC and FI studying full time NEED ADVICE BEES

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Based on your ages (you’re both still young enough to wait) I would be inclined to wait until he has finished studying or at least until he is nearing the end. It’s nice to have money behind you before having babies and if he was working, you could potentially be a SAHM if that is what you are want. It also gives you a chance to establish your teaching career. 

You are lucky you are so young. A lot of people don’t meet until they are in their late 20’s and with biological clocks ticking TTC often happens sooner rather than later. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I know the baby fever feeling! When I turned 26 it just hit me lol. Unfortunately I have quite a few things I need to get sorted before I have kids so babies will be a few years away for me. I wish our biological clocks ticked for longer than they do! 

 

 

 

I’m sure whatever you decide you will make it work 🙂 Maybe your hubby (to be) could be a SAHD?

Oooo, I just noticed you’re from Adelaide. I’m living in NZ at the moment but am looking for somewhere in Australia to live (the Oz economy kicks NZ’s butt!). What is Adelaide like? I went to Melbourne last week thinking I would love it but I was really disappointed 🙁 there was no greenery and the city was so dirty. I considered Adelaide but someone said it would be too small and the job market wouldn’t be as good?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Lol, coin toss? It’s great that he’s so into kids – I’m sure he will be a great Dad 🙂 

Glad to hear you love it so much. I’m currently a paraplanner, but hoping to become an adviser. Anything in the finance industry would be okay though as long as it paid okay. 

I must admit the pictures of Adelaide look gorgeous, so much nicer than Melbourne!

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

We are in a similar position… I am a student. Looking to finish and start work next spring. I’m older than you… almost 30… and worried about being pregnant whilst looking for work/not finding work and delaying having children as a result/ending up without maternity leave at all.

In your position, I would probably just have the baby and accept that your husband will have to do the lion’s share of the childcare, seeing as he is the student.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@kfiorita:  I agree… never a right time. My main worry involves being pregnant/TTC and job searching… but you have the advantage over me, because you needn’t worry about that!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@kfiorita:  Ha! depends how poor you are. There’s poor, and then there’s POOR. I think a lot of people don’t really know the difference. One poster on the bee said that they could not afford to have children, even if they wanted them, without living a very restricted lifestyle. They posted their income… they earn twice what DH and I do, we live in the same city, and from what she posted, we lead a somewhat similar lifestyle. We worked out that we could afford 2 kids on our income, without cutting back too much. She said she couldn’t afford any on twice that. So it goes to show…

I’ve been POOR. I don’t think many people on here have. I’ve been a minimum wage worker, and that really is miserable. Long hours, no security, and constant money worries. For me, when you’re struggling to afford toilet paper then you can’t afford a child! But other people seem to set the bar much higher.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@kfiorita:  Yeah, tell me about it… if we had twice the income we do, we could afford a 5 bedroom house with a huge garden, multiple foreign holidays, to eat out at all the best restaurants… AND to have children, based on our current expenditure!

We couldn’t afford to have designer clothes, glamorous jewellery and homeware, or expensive cars in addition to all of the above, true. But those things are not important to us.

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